Should I text him?
I (23F) had a situation with this guy (28M) that occurred a couple months ago. I’m seeking advice but also at the same I do kinda feel like I should just text him cuz I really don’t have anything to lose. BUT I thought I’d write something on here just to see what people think. It’s not a complicated situation but I’m not the best at dating and am more used to relationship type of deals. Anyways I currently live in the Netherlands and of course as someone who isn’t from here, I got on hinge. My approach to hinge has always been very light hearted and I genuinely never want anything specific out of it, in fact the times I’ve had hinge before (I’ve deleted and made new accounts countless times) it was purely to just fuck w people. But now that I was in a new environment with virtually no friends I decided to actually utilize hinge how it should be utilized. I matched with this one guy who is from here and was pleasantly surprised by how much I fucked w him. I’m a pretty picky person and often get “the ick” (Im really sorry to use that term I kinda hate it but I couldn’t think of a better alternative). Basically it takes a lot for me to actually fuck w the person (in my opinion). We texted for about a week before we met up. The first time we hung out it was super natural and for the first time in a long tine I felt like this person actually met me on my level. Not only with what our interests / humor were but also just how we viewed life and our values. It was such a nice blend of light heartedness and being real about more serious topics. The second time we hung we hooked up. Now I’m usually not the type to get w people right away unless that’s all I want out of the situation. But this was not the case. He was genuinely someone that I wanted to hang out with even after we got together. However this happened almost three months ago now and we haven’t seen or talked to each other 😂😂😂 To be honest I had the full intention of hitting him up but I think as more time went on I got in my head thinking “Oof maybe all he wanted was to hook up since yeah we did meet on a dating app…” and “well fuck now just a bunch of time has passed and he hasn’t texted me so idk maybe it’s a done deal”. The problem is idk I still think about him all the time. On one hand I sometimes think it’s because I’m a girl and sex for us is often different than it is for dudes just in regards to attachment and what not. I also haven’t been seeing anyone else between now and then. But then I also like to think that I still think about him because we really did have a genuine connection. The last time we hung out there was really no reason for us to not continue talking. It was honestly a great time, at least for me (famous last words), so idk how to about this. Should I text him or should I cut my losses and move on? I hate that I can’t get him out of my head but at the same time, do I actually want to or do I like thinking about him…