u/Independent_Mix_9018

So me (m 33) and my wife (f33) have been together for 15 years. In that time we have sort of settled into a groove. Even before we had a kid, probably around covid era we started only having morning sex. I was fine with this because of work from home, but that ended eventually. And the morning only sex stayed. So that means our only chance was saturday or Sunday, as if I tried at night it was just a complete shutdown.

Im getting frustrated because if something interrupts our wundow of opportunity there's no making it up, I just have to wait a whole day. If something happens both weekend days, we just dont have sex that week.

Maybe im being selfish but id like to be able to try when the mood feels right again, not just when the time of day lines up. Has anyone dealt with this? Ive talked to her about it amd she just says she's tired from the day

Sorry for bad English. Both early 30s. Married 8 years, together since high school. Obviously always had its ups and downs but it's getting harder to remember the ups. One kid, kindergarten age.

Lately it feels like nothing I do is enough. I get criticized for every little thing. I have never criticized her. I dont think I've ever even complained about anything she did or didnt do. Im not checked out just satisfied.

For the past half year or so its gotten harder to feel like she loves me. We both used to be physically affectionate now I cant even put my hand on her most of the time. We had basically our first argument last night. I say first because it's usually just her complaining at me. I finally defended myself and she cried. I feel like im going crazy. Nothing I do is right. Im an idiot. Etc.

I do nt want to start my life over. But im tired of feeling like the person I love doesnt even respect me. This feels hopeless. I cant help doing thing wrong sometimes or forgetting things. Everyone does that.

tl;dr it feels like my wife thinks I'm an idiot. I am extremely in love still but it feels like she doesn't love me.