Was I rude?
After so much response on my previous post, I decided that I will try to be social from now onwards. At least, I will try to. So for that I decided that I will start with chat and after I am comfortable chatting online I'll take those skills in the real world.
Now, I seriously believe that conversation would flow much easier if people would be direct about their intentions and message, leaving no guesswork for anyone. This way I don't have to worry about the next best thing to say which would get the reaction that I want. For example, If my friend says "Why do you keep texting me everyday? Don't you have any other friends?". Instead of hiding behind "I do have other friends, they are busy right now, so I texted you" I will be straightforward and tell him that he's the only friend I have. This way feels more natural and appropriate to me. It isn't that I became this open with him after we became friends but rather because I was like this from the start and he was the kind of person I would like to be friends with.
This doesn't work out well in real world though, one wrong move and I would be all over my college whatsapp group lol.
Onto the main topic, I texted someone from the r/Introverts chat and here's how it went:
Me: Hey, how you doing?
Her: I am doing well, hbu
Me: I am doing good too. Are you student or working?
Her: I work at a restaurant
Me: Didn't you graduate (I think this was rude to say but I didn't meant it that way. I was trying to find if she's from the same major (computer science) as me)
Her: I did
Me: What did you graduate in? (When I thought about it later on, it's like I am saying "what did someone have to graduate in to work at a restaurant?")
Haven't heard back from her since then.
Was it a rude thing to say or am I overthinking?