u/Independent_Style_59

Girl please this literally would have been a cute pic if you BRUSHED YOUR TONGUEEEE… you’ve got to be able to smell her breath from 5 feet away

Ive never posted on Reddit for advice or opinions on anything but here goes nothing - for context I (25f) had a hookup turned situationship with a mutual friend I went to high school with (24m). We’ve known each other about 2 years now through mutual friends and had what felt like a full blown relationship from about August of last year until April of this year. To make a long story as short as possible, we had said I love you back and forth, texted all day every day, and hung out as much as our schedules allowed us to. Not a lot of dates or anything just talking in the car for hours and hooking up. He pretty much ended it with me in April because all it was doing was hurting both of us considering neither of us are in any place to try and get into a relationship right now. We had been kind of going back and forth out of frustration about the situation and I was petty and brought up how he liked my friends instagram story of her in a sports bra at the gym which I thought was just really odd given all the circumstances. I was so sad throughout the entire “relationship” because I knew the cold hard truth was that the longer I let it go on, the worse it would hurt. He knew this and always told me how he really really just did not want to hurt me at all. Anyway I’ve been working it out in therapy and actually have been doing better recently, I just got my associates degree and I’ve been hanging out with my friends a lot more and just finding myself again. Today he randomly texted me for the first time since we went no contact and I just don’t know how to respond. I obviously miss him too but I want to respond the right way (this is not something I want to just leave on read I feel like it should be addressed. Not sure if anyone will read this but thoughts are welcomed :)

EDIT - I feel like I should have added more to this, we didn't ONLY hang out in his car but that I wasn't going to bring anyone into my parents house who isn't my boyfriend and vice versa. I actually had an abortion in October (and didn't tell him until February) and I think that's part of the reason it's been so hard on me to let him go. We really did get to know each other in the time that we spent together and I just don't know if this is a bullshit tactic just to have sex with me or try and keep me in the corner if that makes sense. I think I'd just like to hear what other people would say in this situation.

ve never posted on Reddit for advice or opinions on anything but here goes nothing - for context I (25f) had a hookup turned situationship with a mutual friend I went to high school with (24m). We’ve known each other about 2 years now through mutual friends and had what felt like a full blown relationship from about August of last year until April of this year. To make a long story as short as possible, we had said I love you back and forth, texted all day every day, and hung out as much as our schedules allowed us to. Not a lot of dates or anything just talking in the car for hours and hooking up. He pretty much ended it with me in April because all it was doing was hurting both of us considering neither of us are in any place to try and get into a relationship right now. We had been kind of going back and forth out of frustration about the situation and I was petty and brought up how he liked my friends instagram story of her in a sports bra at the gym which I thought was just really odd given all the circumstances. I was so sad throughout the entire “relationship” because I knew the cold hard truth was that the longer I let it go on, the worse it would hurt. He knew this and always told me how he really really just did not want to hurt me at all. Anyway I’ve been working it out in therapy and actually have been doing better recently, I just got my associates degree and I’ve been hanging out with my friends a lot more and just finding myself again. Today he randomly texted me for the first time since we went no contact and I just don’t know how to respond. I obviously miss him too but I want to respond the right way (this is not something I want to just leave on read I feel like it should be addressed. Not sure if anyone will read this but thoughts are welcomed :)

Edit - I feel like I should have added more to this, we didn’t ONLY hang out in his car but that I wasn’t going to bring anyone into my parents house who isn’t my boyfriend and vice versa. I actually had an abortion in October (and didn’t tell him until February) and I think that’s part of the reason it’s been so hard on me to let him go. We really did get to know each other in the time that we spent together and I just don’t know if this is a bullshit tactic just to have sex with me or try and keep me in the corner if that makes sense. I think I’d just like to hear what other people would say in this situation.

ve never posted on Reddit for advice or opinions on anything but here goes nothing - for context I (25f) had a hookup turned situationship with a mutual friend I went to high school with (24m). We’ve known each other about 2 years now through mutual friends and had what felt like a full blown relationship from about August of last year until April of this year. To make a long story as short as possible, we had said I love you back and forth, texted all day every day, and hung out as much as our schedules allowed us to. Not a lot of dates or anything just talking in the car for hours and hooking up. He pretty much ended it with me in April because all it was doing was hurting both of us considering neither of us are in any place to try and get into a relationship right now. We had been kind of going back and forth out of frustration about the situation and I was petty and brought up how he liked my friends instagram story of her in a sports bra at the gym which I thought was just really odd given all the circumstances. I was so sad throughout the entire “relationship” because I knew the cold hard truth was that the longer I let it go on, the worse it would hurt. He knew this and always told me how he really really just did not want to hurt me at all. Anyway I’ve been working it out in therapy and actually have been doing better recently, I just got my associates degree and I’ve been hanging out with my friends a lot more and just finding myself again. Today he randomly texted me for the first time since we went no contact and I just don’t know how to respond. I obviously miss him too but I want to respond the right way (this is not something I want to just leave on read I feel like it should be addressed. Not sure if anyone will read this but thoughts are welcomed :)