u/Individual_Egg909

I have been with my partner for a few years now, and I have realised a lot of my actions and thoughts are due to me placing him on a pedestal. He is a very gorgeous man and I can’t imagine anyone thinking otherwise, so it makes my brain go haywire. I believe everyone looks at him and thinks he is the most beautiful man ever and want to speak to him etc. also in general I realise I spiral so much regarding his behaviours and when he exists without me as I seem to have made him this god in my head who everyone falls to his feet. How do I become ok with the fact that he has a life outside of our relationship? And that having so doesn’t mean that he doesn’t love me or prioritise our relationship?

I would like some reassurance regarding my boyfriend 23M (I am 22F) going on holiday with his friends. I am an anxious attached partner but I’m working really hard on being more secure in myself and our relationship. He is going to Split with his best friends from childhood, most of whom are in relationships as well. How do I deal with being okay and secure in the fact that he is going on holiday without me? It stems from two places, one of which is he is an extremely attractive man, and the thought of girls either approaching him or just staring makes me sad. I get funny about the fact that other people definitely see him as super attractive too and the potential attention he might get. I am starting to get over that and be secure in the two of us, but my main issue stems from him realising he has a better time without me. We have been together for over four years, so I shouldn’t be insecure about such a thing!! But it doesn’t stop me from worrying every time he is experiencing things when his friends that he realises he prefers time spent with them and exploring the world with them rather than with me :( please could I just have some advice on how to tackle these thoughts that are quite prominent currently as he has just booked this boys holiday. Thank you :)

TL;DR: my partner going on a boys holiday. How do I rewire my brain to view this more securely and in a less jealous way?