u/Individual_Jelly_652

I have been in a three year relationship with a very nice sweet and loving woman. I was divorced 10 years ago from a spouse who decided to cheat in our marriage (I never have). My partner has been going through Menopause and is on HRT. Our love life has been totally gone for the past two years. When we first meet we had an incredible love life, then it got less and less as it naturally does in some relationships. Its coming up on 2 years and I am losing my mind. I have a high sex drive and I have spoken to her about this. I have even said its very hard to feel unloved, she says she loves me, but my answer to her is intimacy to me is part of loving a person, not everything, but a healthy component. She got very upset about it, and at one point said "you want sex, lets just have it" I said no, I don't want a Mercy Fk! That's not making love to the person you care about, there is nothing there. Especially if she doesn't want it. Kind of gross to know your forcing the person too. Is it fair that I keep going on basically celibate? I do love her, its a very sad and messed up situation. Friends say I should go outside my relationship and have fun, I have an internal problem with that. said to think that I can not have sex till she's decides. Geez I am so pulled..... signed "The Master baiter"