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I love her but should I let her go?

So this is a long one but I met my girlfriend last year in January (2025) and we got together in February I’m 19F and she’s 18F. We have a very intense relationship to say the least but she’s my best friend and we tell each other everything. In July 2025 we broke up because I was mentally struggling and I completely pushed her away and ruined it, it was a very awful difficult time. She then reached out in September 2025 and we caught up spoke about how much we miss each other and then she said it’s too much too soon this isn’t a good idea and pretty much just blocked me. Fast forward to this year, she drunk called and reached out in February which would’ve been our one year, and as much it was late and she was drunk she sobered up and we talked for hours about life and everything. We then decided to meet up a week later and although everybody in our lives were against it we got back together a few weeks after the initial talk. We’ve been together now since then, last night we had a big fight, I’d really been struggling with the long distance and that she was busy and I felt like she had no time for me. I expressed this in anger and I really upset her. She told me that I’ve broken her trust again and she can’t give me another chance, she said I want u to change the way u act not who you are and that she believes I am a good person underneath the way I behave sometimes.

We spoke for an hour in work and I got so upset I had to go home, I sent her a message saying I can’t change ur mind I think ur right we do need some space but please try and see all the good in our relationship.

She says she loves me but I need to stop being selfish and admit I can’t be in a relationship and she doesn’t want to be hurt like she has been.

What do I do now?

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u/Individual_Paint_704 — 12 days ago

I love her but should I let her go?

So this is a long one but I met my girlfriend last year in January (2025) and we got together in February I’m 19F and she’s 18F. We have a very intense relationship to say the least but she’s my best friend and we tell each other everything. In July 2025 we broke up because I was mentally struggling and I completely pushed her away and ruined it, it was a very awful difficult time. She then reached out in September 2025 and we caught up spoke about how much we miss each other and then she said it’s too much too soon this isn’t a good idea and pretty much just blocked me. Fast forward to this year, she drunk called and reached out in February which would’ve been our one year, and as much it was late and she was drunk she sobered up and we talked for hours about life and everything. We then decided to meet up a week later and although everybody in our lives were against it we got back together a few weeks after the initial talk. We’ve been together now since then, last night we had a big fight, I’d really been struggling with the long distance and that she was busy and I felt like she had no time for me. I expressed this in anger and I really upset her. She told me that I’ve broken her trust again and she can’t give me another chance, she said I want u to change the way u act not who you are and that she believes I am a good person underneath the way I behave sometimes.

We spoke for an hour in work and I got so upset I had to go home, I sent her a message saying I can’t change ur mind I think ur right we do need some space but please try and see all the good in our relationship.

She says she loves me but I need to stop being selfish and admit I can’t be in a relationship and she doesn’t want to be hurt like she has been.

What do I do now?

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u/Individual_Paint_704 — 12 days ago