I’m 35F and have never had sex. Have decided to just bite the bullet and do it with a guy I’ve chatted to a bit online.
I’m very unattractive and obviously inexperienced. Do you have any tips on how I can make this good for him? He doesn’t know that I’ve never done this before (and I’m not telling him). I’ll have the lights low obviously but looking for advice on things I can do to level up the experience for him.
Thanks in advance!
I’ll preface this by saying I can’t afford therapy, even though I know I probably need it.
I’m 35 years of age and have never had sex. I’ve tried dating a few times and they’ve usually not been interested in a second date. One guy managed to get to 5 dates but I found anything physical just super awkward and uncomfortable and he eventually packed me in.
I have a horrible body (unfortunately not fixed with a gym membership) and am not attractive so I think it comes from a feeling of inadequacy. For a really long time I had zero interest from men and now the only interest I get is from guys online looking for hookups. I keep trying to will myself to just go for it but I just know deep down that they’ll find me a turn off and I can’t bear it.
I think underlying all of this is a feeling that I’m way too old to be losing my virginity, starting a relationship etc and it’s at the point where I’m wondering if I’m better off just giving up on it all.
I guess I just wondered if anyone else has been through something similar and if you learned to accept it or overcame it.