u/Inevitable-Honey4760

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How should I present myself?

Hi all, I’m currently a 2nd year History student applying for summer internships and shadowing opportunities.

Got a response back yesterday asking to send in my CV, so I’m hoping they’ll let me shadow a solicitor for a day or two.

Now, I’m not loaded. I don’t even have a suit. I was thinking of going into M&S or Next to get myself a tailored suit. I’ve been given advice that navy blue is the best choice, so I’m going to go for that.

I also have a short beard, and a mullet. I still have time to grow out my hair into a more professional haircut. I will most likely lose the mullet, and instead of messy hair style go for something cleaner. But I really don’t want to clean shave unless you guys think it’s absolutely necessarily.

The biggest issue is that I have some stick & poke sticker tattoos on my hands. Specifically on my fingers (not too many, like 5-6). I have already looked into professional makeup which will help me cover them up until I can afford to get them removed. They’re not vulgar or anything.

I’ve been told by a friend who’s both parents are lawyers that no one will ever hire me in their firm if I have hand tattoos, a beard, or not a professional haircut. So you can imagine I’m a bit anxious about this.

Any other advice will be greatly appreciated!

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u/Inevitable-Honey4760 — 7 days ago

Recently went through the hardest time in my life, where I was so depressed I could not do it for two weeks straight at a time. A month ago I managed to get myself out of that situation, so the urge to watch porn is back again.

The issue is that it’s destroying the relationship with my gf. Sex with her doesn’t hit the same because I’m already seeking more extreme porn, something that she will never be able to perform. My brain is absolutely fried.

I love her more than anything, but everytime we try and have sex, I just cannot, so I start blaming stress, depression, intrusive thoughts etc. just so I can make her feel less bad as she thinks it’s her fault I don’t find her attractive. I feel intimacy getting less and less rewarding, and everytime I’m home alone without her I get this urge to just watch porn and jerk off.

I’m porn free for 4 days now, but I did masturbate yesterday by thinking of her and loosing my grip cause the death grip was also an issue as I couldn’t feel anything during piv. I’m uncut so I’m not touching my head.

The issue is that I’m also bisexual. And I consume gym content with guys looking pretty hot. I usually don’t care that they’re looking good, but since I quit porn it’s hard.

She also has exams which makes it harder for us to have sex, so I’m being horny while she’s sleeping next to me. Obvs I don’t blame her, and I don’t expect anything from her after a full day of studying + work.

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u/Inevitable-Honey4760 — 20 days ago

Recently went through the hardest time in my life, where I was so depressed I could not do it for two weeks straight at a time. A month ago I managed to get myself out of that situation, so the urge to watch porn is back again.

The issue is that it’s destroying the relationship with my gf. Sex with her doesn’t hit the same because I’m already seeking more extreme porn, something that she will never be able to perform. My brain is absolutely fried.

I love her more than anything, but everytime we try and have sex, I just cannot, so I start blaming stress, depression, intrusive thoughts etc. just so I can make her feel less bad as she thinks it’s her fault I don’t find her attractive. I feel intimacy getting less and less rewarding, and everytime I’m home alone without her I get this urge to just watch porn and jerk off.

I’m porn free for 4 days now, but I did masturbate yesterday by thinking of her and loosing my grip cause the death grip was also an issue as I couldn’t feel anything during piv. I’m uncut so I’m not touching my head.

The issue is that I’m also bisexual. And I consume gym content with guys looking pretty hot. I usually don’t care that they’re looking good, but since I quit porn it’s hard.

She also has exams which makes it harder for us to have sex, so I’m being horny while she’s sleeping next to me. Obvs I don’t blame her, and I don’t expect anything from her after a full day of studying + work.

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u/Inevitable-Honey4760 — 20 days ago