The root of the situation is honestly pretty stupid, but let me explain. It started with another friend I had a disagreement with. Long story short, they were upset because they thought I “called them out,” even though it was a misunderstanding. Every time I tried to talk to them, whether in person or online, to understand what was wrong and find common ground, they ignored me.
My best friend got involved when there was a group call with some mutual friends, including the person I had the disagreement with. I wasn’t in the call, but my best friend let me listen from another device. Someone asked if they planned on making amends with me, and they said no, then went on to tell their version of the story. What hurt most was when they started calling me a “mean and rude” person, and no one, especially my best friend, said anything in my defense.
I understand everyone is entitled to their opinion, but the people in that call genuinely know me, and it hurt seeing someone speak negatively about my character while everyone stayed silent. I take loyalty seriously, and in that moment, it made me question whether I can trust my best friend to have my back when I’m not around. I told my best friend how disappointed I was, and they eventually apologized, but they still remain close with the person who spoke badly about me.
I’m not the type to tell my friends who they can or can’t be friends with, but I feel conflicted. It’s hard for me to call someone my best friend when they know me better than almost anyone, yet continue to associate closely with someone who speaks so negatively of me.
Maybe I’m overthinking it, but that’s honestly how I feel.