Hi everyone! I’m helping a US citizen who needs to get an FBI background check in Bali.
He already has the FBI fingerprint card but needs to find somewhere in Bali that can take his fingerprints.
Does anyone know where he can get this done? Any recommendations or personal experiences would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!
Location: Yeh Gangga Beach, Tabanan
I work for a visa agency and this morning I accompanied one of my clients to his immigration appointment.
I had only seen his passport photo before, but... wow. He was way more handsome in real life than I expected.
While we were waiting for our queue, we chatted quite a bit about his trip and his plans to visit another island. The conversation flowed naturally, we laughed a few times, and it didn't feel forced.
At one point, I was looking at him while he was looking somewhere else. Then he turned, caught me looking, and instead of it being awkward, I smiled, he smiled back, and we just carried on talking.
Now I can't stop thinking about him 😭
Here's the dilemma: he's my client. I obviously don't want to be unprofessional or make anyone uncomfortable.
Would it be weird to shoot my shot after his visa process is completely finished? Has anyone here ever dated someone they initially met through work in a situation like this? Or is this one of those "admire from afar and move on" situations?
Im looking for outside perspectives because every now and then i still think about an olf friendship conflict and wonder if i was being too sensitive.
We were best friends for almost 7 years.
The conflict that ended our friendship started when she called me the next morning after she went on night out with her friends. She told me that she left her bike at a club because she was too drunk to ride home and that now stuck at the hotel with her friends and they wanted to get breakfast. I suggested her get grab bike to go back to the club to get her bike but she said that she couldnt because she’d need helmet for her friends then she said “its okay, youre not a problem solver” that comment really hurt me because it wasnt the first time i felt underestimated by her. After we ended the call i still answered her message about practical things but i wasnt like the usual and she noticed and asked if there is something wrong. It took days for me to replied her text and tell her what was bothered me. She later sent me long message apologizing for the problem solver comment but also said she felt exhausted by my tendency to withdraw whenever i was hurt. She said she felt like she was constantly walking on eggshells around me ans make her questione herself whether she was a bad friend, and recommended me to seek professional help. She also said something that stuck with me: that i seemed to tolerate hurtful behavior from men, but one mistake from her led me to distance myself. However, i also felt like she never really understood why that comment affected me so much and i decided that i didnt want to continue the friendship. I sent a message saying that I didnt think we were compatible as close friends anymore. She didnt response to my text which was honestly what i expected. However, she later posted on twitter “dont play games with me, you‘ll lose”. That tweet confused me because i never saw the situation as battle or game. It wasnt just that one sentence. It was also other moments that i still remember:
- At her birthday lunch, her bf brought up my situationship. I asked if we could not talk about it because one person (her friend) at the table didnt even know about it. Topic changed and her bf asked what we did on valentines day, i said i spent it at home, i noticed her smile in a way that made me feel like she was thinking, "See? he didnt even celebrate valentines day with you. I know I could be interpreting that incorrectly but why that reaction
- When i told her that my sister also wanted to apply for a scholarship abroad just like her. Her response was, "Are you sure she will be able to do it? She literally took seven years to graduate." I remember feeling that the response was unnecessarily discouraging.
Few months later we reconnected because she contacted me for work related question and we are actually friends again now but with healthier boundaries.
Im genuinely curious do these example sound like someone subtly put me down or do they sound like me being overly sensitive and reading too much into things?
