u/InevitableNew2278

Hi, I apologise if this is not the right place to post this. I’m just over thinking. I went to a concert the other week (it was my first one) and forgot to bring ear plugs, my friend was stressed about me arriving on time that I forgot and didn’t have time to buy some before I arrived. She stressed me out some more about our position in the queue that I forgot again about ear plugs. While I was in the line by myself I freaked out asking my friends how bad can a concert get because I couldn’t leave to go buy some and everyone told me it’s fine nothing will happen to me.

I’ve been “criticised” for my fear of losing my hearing whenever I go to clubs and stuff, with one friend making digs about how I’m freaking out over nothing and I won’t lose my hearing from a techno set despite me being told that I can get tinnitus from just one concert.

I’ve been meaning to by reusable ear plugs for a while now but didn’t plan accordingly as I had a stressful month.

By the time I was in the concert I forgot about my fear of getting tinnitus and when it was over my hearing was completely muffled and ringing. I started freaking out. My friend told me to calm down and that she got tinnitus from a young age and it’s nothing to worry about, even though the ringing and muffled mess of my hearing felt so uncomfortable and I could barely hear her.

We met some other friends and they kept trying to reassure me that my hearing will come back.

After a few hours one ear was fine but I kept hearing ringing in the other ear. The next day I could hear normally.

I’m just worried that I’m perceiving damaged hearing as normal or if everything is actually fine. I don’t hear any ringing now, nothing is muffled. My earphones are always below 75db and I hear it fine, so I think I’m fine?

Remembering this experience and because I’ve been invited to another techno event made me want to finally splurge on reusable ear plugs.

I’ve always been protective about my hearing and I fucked up with that concert. If I don’t hear anything differently right now am I still gonna be fucked? I will always bring ear plugs with me everywhere from now on but should I get checked out?

I’m sorry if I cause any offense by freaking out over this

I hooked up with an online friend I had known for YEARS after we first met in person. He initiated. I knew he liked me at one point in our friendship. We hooked up multiple times for a week, and I developed feelings for him almost instantly when I met him in person. It didn’t feel just purely sexual to me, we held hands on walks, we kissed each other lightly when the other was busy, we cuddled, played with each other’s hair. He kissed me longingly at the airport before he had to board his plane. I told him I’ll miss him and he said that we’ll still talk. We talked for a couple weeks after he went back home. I felt like it was more frequent than we normally did but we did not talk about the hookup. But then I made an offhand comment about it and then he completely ghosted me. I’d ask if he was okay or if I did something wrong. Nothing. Just complete silence. I know he is online through social media, he’s not removed me anywhere but he’s not speaking to me at all?

It’s been months and sometimes I feel okay but today I really don’t. I miss him. I miss my friend. I’ve stopped my attempts to reach out for a while now. I’m just so confused. I thought he liked me, other friends said that he did. He was sweet to me for years until this. I don’t know if I did anything wrong. I don’t want to regret the hookup. I just feel like I messed up somewhere but I don’t know why he’s acting like this. This is so unlike him. I just can’t get him out of my head. I just want him to come back.

For extra context: he’s always been vocal about how much he dislikes and feels hurt by people who ghost him so it was extra shocking for me that he would do this