Hey guys, so I've never told this stuff to actual people and like i've never been the "share your problems" person. I've always been the strong one that's funny and childish.
I don't know why i'm dumping this but here we go...
So the last few years of my life are as follows:
A guy likes me. I reject him. Another one, completely crazy had asked me more than 24 times, i rejected him every time. And like around 7-8 guys have confessed till now so yeah. Well that's different.
Main thing is, I made friends with a guy in class and we became best friends, evern though we just talked like normal friends and all. He also confessed btw, after which i said no. The thing i I don't believe in dating. It's a fake concept according to me. Like marriage has rituals and paperwork and all. But being in a relationship is just, idk, i just dont believe in it. So I said no. After that we fell apart gradually, and during my national competition, something inside me felt empty.
During nationals which was like 2 weeks after this, i started talking to another person in my class, like he replied to my story so we were just talking those days and yeah. later on he confessed to me to. Ofc I said no because i dont do this stuff. Me and this guy, after this rejection it has always been like weird. I feel like he's not emotionally well and i try to help a lot but he's too deep in. And that guy that I rejected 24 times, him too. He might be wannabe cool and non-chalant and rude in real life, but, i have actually talked to him and i think he's not okay either. I feel bad for them. Guys have to act tough and I really don't like that they have to hide it.
Moving on, now about that nationals ke time vala guy, i have blocked him so many times in between cuz my friends told me so but in the end i ended up unblocking him and now he's kinda rude to me and doesn't talk to me much but, that's ok. and understandable as well.
Main thing comes after this.
Before you ask, why they're all guys, i have friends that are girls too but this is not about them, and idk why but like most girls had their own groups and i've never been awkward with any guy like the guys who don't usually talk to girls they sometimes talk to me, maybe ask work or whatever. so just saying that I don't really HATE anyone or something like that so I talk to anyone so i guess that's why both guys and girls talk to me.
So yes coming to this guy:
This is painful. We used to be in the same class a few years ago and last year he switched sections to my class. I just asked if he switched sections and he said yes. After that we started talking...
We became THE BEST OF FRIENDS. he was.. IS the nicest person ever but everyone hates him. Like ok so he's jaat and has a huge ego. Moreover there are certain rumours about him and so the girls are all united against him but, I never believed those rumours because I KNEW he didn't do it, I KNEW IT before I knew him this well. I wasn't scared of him like everyone else. We became really good friends. Best friends. I have made countless mistakes in the past. He helped me see them. He used to get VERY angry and like punch the walls and all, one time he rammed his head in the wall. His anger was extreme. But i get it. He told me he wasn't angry on me, but that he wasnt there for me. Protective side he called it. He was very overprotective though and like relaly protected me from stuff, told me what to do what not to do. After a while, i cut off all friends because he didn't like when i talked to other ppl. I didn't what to be rude to others for no reason but i did it, for him. He meant everything to me.
He had a love, but they had a fight 2 years ego. He's been hurt since then. Remembers her everyday. He even told me the name, nobody in school knows that. I was the only girl he talked to. He wasn't an attention seeker or like one who involves with girls and all. He just talked to me cause he thought i was just different. and idk why but i get that a lot. (maybe im just so cool😎)
basically after a short 10 months, we had a fight.
his father was unwell, like really unwell, and his mood was always off. i regret to this day that i wasnt there for him during this time. i had nationals coming up and after last nationals i needed this to be good. something felt off about him like weeks before nationals. he was under a lot of stress and i hate that i was being so attention seeking. he became angry cause he didn't want to be responsible for all my emotions and told me to start talking to other ppl.
Now after i cut everyone off how do i go back. But i did. I texted a friend and like at that point i started paniking. I randomly called my friend after like months of barely talking and asked if he was mad that i didnt see his messages and he said.. u crazy? ofc not? and then he might have caught on cause of the sudden call like I NEVER CALL ppl like that so he asked me if everything was okay and i did say yes but then later on text he said i can tell him anything. I told him that "I had a friend and we recently blah blah blah blah had a fight blah blah and left me blah blah"
All that happened. Then my bestie texts me to make things right after our fight. At this point im done. So i say i dont care, i dont care whatever and all. And so he starts panicking because if I tell this stuff to ANYONE he would be so doomed. The thing is our friendship was a secret. NOBODY knew about it. We never even talked in class. So if anyone got to know it was him then uska bura image bn jayega i guess so yeah. then he gets really angry and all and calls me. That was our last call.
During that we had a whole talk and we cleared everything up. We were good again. I had nationals in 3 days now. So then allat happens and I give nationals which went really bad bte like 100x worse then practice sessions. Anyways right after nationals he told me that since the day i talked to that other person and told him about the friendsbip break thing, he has been really scared that our secret will come out and so i guess trust shattered and he broke from the inside. I get it, I shouldn't have done that.
So then we stopped talking at all. :)
I can't tell anyone cause like it's supposed to be a secret friendship. This just hurts honestly. In between I broke out with my sibling like friend because i was friends with this guy and like we were quite good friends. It must have hurt him so much. I just cut him off with no explanation. After this i apologised to him and he accepted it. I'm just glad my friends accepted me again. After that came boards. Our friendship broke around 1st week of jan.
I didnt feel like studying after that. I started studying for boards in feb, that too last few days before maths board like 9th 10th feb. I hadnt studied at all year except maths cause i was either talking to him or in school or in math tution or in sports academy.
Anyways i didnt even study during exam gaps and like I VARELY STUDIED BUT STILL MANAGED A 97%. im shocked. and ppl dont believe i didnt study. but i guess im the only one who knows what happened to me in those days. they were honestly really bad. i couldn't study AT ALL and i still cant. im in 11th grade now. its been 5 months since our friendship broke. I saw him in school today. I feel hurt.
Basically here's my situation now. I dont have ppl to talk to. I have good friends but not ppl i can actually talk to. im lost. alone. and no one understands me and i cant tell anyone either.