Wife has zero acknowledgement of what I contribute and the stress of it and it’s getting to me
I work 60hrs+ a week, sometimes in an office, sometimes at home all day, sometimes under the floor of a big office building. My wife stays home and our 4 year old goes to school. 4/5 days a week.
This last month has been rough. I got a promotion which requires significantly more effort, and my wife started giving up basic tasks because “men should do more”
I felt slighted at this as I already work 60hrs and I also stay home on the days our kid doesn’t have school to be with them, and I am 100% on during the weekends.
We already split the house chores, I walk the two dogs, and change the 1 cats litter. I mop and vacuum every other day, I clean both bathrooms once a week, and cook 2 times each week.
My wife does the laundry and the dishes, and does the lunch packing for our 4 year old son. Any day I have to work late and she has to take the dogs out, I get 10-15 phone calls about how the dogs don’t walk fast with her and that they’re too big for her (both are labs, they’re big idiots)
When I mentioned how stressed I was about basically having two full time jobs she will say “nothing is harder than a SAHM” and then will ask me if I need to up my SSRI I use for my childhood PTSD. Which just feels insulting to be honest.
Which hey. I get it, it’s hard to entertain a high energy toddler all day, (I know because the few days a month I wfh is basically me working and taking care of our son)
But I’m basically at the point here where I quit my job and show her how hard that would be, or stop doing everything at the house. Obviously I don’t want to be homeless.
I feel bad that I’m at my breaking point. Idk what else to do.