r/Millennials

I miss when Instagram felt like people documenting their lives instead of presenting them.

Early Instagram was:
blurry concert photos, random screenshots, memes, posting 11 pictures from the same night, terrible filters, exaggerated editing, chaotic captions,inside jokes nobody else understood.

Now every post feels optimized. Every photo is curated. Every caption sounds self-aware and performative. Every person feels like a personal brand.

Social media used to feel like “look what happened.”
Now it feels like “look who I am.”

It was a lot more authentic and raw.

Maybe that’s why old Instagram feels so nostalgic.
It was messier, but people felt more real.

Have you felt this too???

Twenty years ago, working a fast-food job only priced you out of the rental market in major, high-cost cities. We’re the first generation raising kids who can't afford to rent an apartment on those wages anywhere in the country, regardless of how cheap the area used to be.

How are you handling this as parents? Are you ok with multi-generational living? I know that in the quiet conversations within my social group, I do have friends that dread the idea of their kids staying at home past young adulthood. Their kids are jerks, or they are...

I had a coworker who got divorced at 40 because her husband refused to let their daughter stay at home after college (he was 10 years older, she had a kid early). The daughter had legal trouble and was apparently seriously abusive. The daughter had nowhere to go, my coworker wanted the daughter to move back home, he said no... so she moved out and got an apartment and now lives with the abusive daughter.

How are you all approaching your kids and their futures as things become more and more different from how they were when we were getting out of college?

I honestly feel like it happened overnight for me. I just DGAF about so many things that used to bother me.

I guess for me the thighs I used to feel embarrassed about just disappeared. I am not embarrassed about anything I used to feel embarrassed about. It’s so freeing, lol.

What do you not GAF about that used to bother you?
How are you feeling about that?

Tell me all, lol. It’s new to me at 36 but I love it!

You always hear of people moving out of their state and hometown. But how many people have actually moved back to the area they grew up? Did you rekindle old friendships? Start fresh? Was it different than you remember?

No wife, no kids, I don't drink. That seems to heavily restrict my options for meeting people in real life.

I'm at the point now where I've been mourning the loss of a bygone era. I used to have more friends than I knew what to do with. Often times I'd have to double book hangouts on the same day just to get to everyone at some point.

Nowadays, I've got 4 friends. That's it. And 3 of em are thousands of miles away. I've been trying to think of what to do. I can make a million online friends, but those aren't the same as IRL friends.

I know for all of us the longer you live, the more people you know die off. But we're still pretty far off from that age, decades most likely. How do y'all make friends or cope with being alone?