Husband- ‘A’ (42M) thinks his younger brother- ‘B’ (37M) likes me (33F). For starters ‘B’, his parents, & siblings live out of state. We have had each other on socials since hubby and I got together, but never really interacted (besides each other’s posts). Hubby and I got married last year and ever since then, he’s been treating me differently. Here are some things we’ve noticed:
- a couple years ago, we did find out b “🍇” his cousin, if you know what I mean (I’m not sure if Reddit allows the word, or I’d say it). So we’ve been more aware since.
- ‘B’ sends me reels. One has said “Sorry Moon, my sister is more beautiful than you.” He also sent it to his sisters. Just thought it was weird. Hubby had a panic attack hearing this because it made him that uncomfortable. Another one recently said “I hope beautiful things happen to you and when they do, I hope you realize you are worth of every single one of them.” And he’s sent this twice (different reels, but exact same wording) in the month, weeks apart. Another one said (not the one that is same wording as the last one I listed), “and in case nobody told you today, you are doing a great job. I’m so proud of you. Keep going, you matter, you’re enough, you’re worth it, and the world is more beautiful because you’re here.” Yes these are random. This last reel kinda caught me off guard and honestly I was nervous to open it because of what the first slide said (he’d only sent this slide and I opened it to see the second). The first slide (again the one he sent me), it says “immediately, send this to the first person that comes to your mind when you read this:,” and the second slide says, “I hope beautiful things happen to you and when they do, I hope you realize you are worth of every single one of them.” (This is the reel I was talking about earlier). He also sends me “you’re a good mom” (all it says) reels, too randomly. If I respond, I just say thank you or like it out of habit.
- on a instagram story that I posted (and hubby reposted) of just hubby and I with also a picture of just me (in the same picture, if that makes sense), he liked the story (not hubby’s) AND said, and I quote “y’all are cute!” He didn’t say it to hubby’s story either. He’s never said anything remotely like that before. But get this, hubby was just wearing jean shorts, a plain t shirt, and plain tennis shoes. Me? A long, floral, sundress. With hair done nicely, jewelry, makeup, and nicer sandals. He’s liked one story in the past of mine, but it had my son (his nephew) in it as well.
- we visited his family a few weeks ago and stayed with them. Nothing crazy happened. But he did tell my husband “your son didn’t get his cuteness from you!” I wasn’t even around lol. Hubby didn’t say anything back because he didn’t want to ruin vacation, but trust me he was mad and upset. Once, I was in hot tub with our son, and my sister in law told my son “isn’t mom so pretty?” B goes “yes mom is so so pretty, like the sky!” (There was a sunset at the time of this). I got quiet and didn’t even thank them, and got out shortly after.
- Not really “wowing,” but ‘B’ is always the first to ‘respond’ or ‘react’ to my msgs in the family group chat. I’m talking within seconds. Again we’re states apart, and there’s times where I text in group chat and hubby is next to me and doesn’t even have the chance to ‘respond’ or ‘react’ to my message before ‘B’ does.
Is hubby overreacting? I don’t really know how to feel. I like to think good of people but also, I’m not sure.