u/Infamous-Cutie-3237

I am wondering if it’s common for the guys to wish or even expect the girl to approach them, ask them out etc. Or are guys waiting for enough”signs” to eventually ask a girl out?

This post is for people that dream but never seem to reach.
You have so many goals you want to pursue. But you have done nothing. Not even one. You just simply drift wherever the ocean waves takes you, without working for what you truly want. Don't be the dreamer. Be the reacher, because dreaming is never enough.

I believe all forms of addiction can be one of the biggest thieves of our dreams. Think about phone-, drugs-, porn-, alcohol addiction, or anything else that constantly gives you a hit of dopamine. The danger is that over time, the immediate reward of dopamine hit can become more important, than the future you once dreamed about.

When I was younger I knew a girl that was addicted to porn, she was approximately 7 years old. Eventually, when she grew up she was searching for the dopamine she saw on the screen. That was her “goal”. Now she is just in her twenties, has two kids, no house and lives with her mother-in-law. I don’t believe that is the life she dreamed of, but addiction stopped her from reaching.

How sad would it be to lose your dreams to addiction. Don’t let addiction choose your goals for you. Dream and then reach.