Increasing strictness with defiant 3yo
My son is 3y3mo. He is strong willed, very advanced with speech, and has been showing increased defiance with age. He has some moments of lovely sweetness but also everyday we are having several battles/power struggles because he argues with literally everything. I know this is all developmentally normal.
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I know guidance for this phase is to hold boundaries for the things that matter (safety, health etc) and give them some power to choose for other stuff (ex: clothes, do you want strawberries or blueberries with your porridge, do you want to bring 2 or 3 hot wheels to the park). However we are finding that as a result he just thinks everything is negotiable resulting in an argument, so we are now trying the approach of no choices. It feels horrible though. For example if I tell him he can have 4 strawberries he immediately says he wants 5. Obviously I don't care if he has 5 but I have to hold the line and say he can only have 4, "because I said so" (or give a BS reason like "your tummy will hurt") otherwise everything else becomes a discussion.
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Just wondering whether this approach is "right" and looking for experiences from parents who have done similarly after trying the more conventional approach of giving options.