u/Infamous-Rule2090

I love that I found this sub!

This is something Ive always wondered but never asked anyone. I’m a 36 year old man that has loved women taking charge and especially women who are very touchy & assertive for as long as I can remember. I’m not overly attractive by any means but I’m not bad. I’d probably rate myself a 6 or 7 depending on the day lol. Im a tall solid guy with broad shoulders, thick legs, and a big butt. Not a guy that women throw themselves at immediately or anything like that. But I think my personality is probably more attractive than my physical looks. I also think people expect me to be a take charge kind of guy but I thirst for women to take charge of me. Even women that I’m not interested in romantically or even physically attracted to. My absolute favorite thing is women touching or complimenting me about my butt. And I have never once said this to anyone. I’ve never purposely given anyone the idea that I’d enjoy it and a lot of guys I’m friends with hate when women touch their ass. But not me I crave that shit lol

I’ve been friends with dozens of women throughout my life. And I can probably count on 2 hands the amount of them that haven’t eventually started smacking or squeezing my ass without any prompting from me. I’m very observant especially in group settings and I rarely see them treating other dudes like this. I’ve even seen some guys react negatively when they’ve been touched

Especially in work settings when there could be real consequences but every job I’ve had since I was in high school (except for the one I have now) I’ve had at least 1 coworker who would start a playful grabass situation with me at work. One job I had for almost 10 years, 3 different women initiated workplace butt grabbing with me. But it took years for them to start doing it. I have no clue what made them become comfortable enough with me to take it there but I loved it so I didn’t ask any questions

This has happened to me since high school with platonic friends, girlfriends, friends with boyfriends, married coworkers, there’s nothing that they all had in common. But I promise I very rarely was the first one to start the touching. It’s almost exclusively been the women

So my question is, can yall tell when a man would be receptive to this type of touching? It’s happened so much throughout my life that’s there’s gotta be something I’m subconsciously doing or energy I’m putting out there. Regardless I love it and hope it never stops

This feels crazy to type out but I really miss getting sexually harassed and objectified by the ladies at my old job. I (41M) worked a job in my mid 20s to mid 30s that I truly hated. But the one thing I looked forward to was working with these ladies that were 15-20 years older than me and treated me like a piece of meat. It took a few years for it to start. Probably a combination of them getting more comfortable with me and getting hornier as they got older. But once it started it was almost constant. 

Our office was made up of 20-25 people split 50/50 men and women and most of them were 40-60 years old. Me and another guy were the youngest and I’d say he was better looking than me. But I never saw him get the same treatment as me and he never mentioned it. There were 2 ladies that did most of the harassment, one of them was my direct supervisor let’s call her Laura (45F). She was always flirty with me but always seemed more like joking or hazing the new guy and I happily played along.  But as time went on she got way more direct. She’d comment on my body all the time especially my shoulders and my butt. It was a running joke about how much she checked out guys butts in general but I was the main target. I always needed her to sign paperwork for me and one time I went in her office with a stack of papers for her to sign and she hit me with “what’s in it for me?”. I told her whatever you need to sign these papers. She did a little twirl with her finger telling me to spin around. I thought she’d just make a comment about my butt as usual but this time she grabbed a handful and gave it a good squeeze and commented about how it felt. I was not bothered by this at all I just laughed and played along and she signed my papers. After that day she grabbed my ass at least 2-3 times a week for the next 5 years until I left the job. I never felt like a victim I think I got addicted to the positive attention. I’d go by her office sometimes and barely walk in the doorway with my back to her, let her squeeze on my butt for a few seconds and walk back to my office without exchanging one word with each other. That little interaction would make my day 

Laura’s friend we’ll call Brittany (40F) always joked about having a crush on me but acted way less aggressive than Laura, she still definitely had her fun too though. Laura must have told her I liked the attention because all the sudden after years of never touching me she started getting increasingly handsy with me. It started when we were at a conference out of town and a group of us were shooting pool. Obviously people are gonna get pinched and poked and smacked when they bend over to take a shot. So one time when Brittany was taking a shot in front of me I poked her butt cheek with my finger to distract her. After her shot she was sitting on a tall stool and told me to come over. I was standing to her right with our thighs touching and she just started squeezing my butt where nobody else could see her and told me paybacks a bitch. Well it wasn’t payback or a bitch because I loved it lol. After that work trip she started treating me the same way as Laura. Constantly commenting on my body and my clothes. Walking behind me and pinching my ass but acting like she didn’t do anything. It was a fun game and I played it right back with her. I probably reciprocated the touches more with her because Laura was still my supervisor so I was intimidated by her to a certain extent 

The last one wasn’t nearly as exciting but still happened a few times. Another lady at work was Mary (45F) and she was pretty reserved. But one time she was telling me a story about this guy we had to deal with sometimes who was real pervy with the ladies. She was demonstrating how he brushed his hand across her butt “on accident” when he was giving her a hug. She told me “I hope that didn’t bother you” after she demonstrated it and I said of course not we’re friends why would I mind? Then probably 5 times over the next few years she’d walk past me and touch my butt and say “hey friend” and smile. I never did it back to her but always smiled and played along. 

Let me be clear. Nothing outside of some flirting and touching ever happened and none of them ever tried to take it further or contact me outside of work. This only happened at the office or when we went on work trips. I met all their husbands over the years and they were all older guys that weren’t in good shape and just seemed boring. I guess I was just a fun distraction for them while they were at work. I absolutely love my career I have now but my office does not have these same vibes and I really miss it. I’d never try to get something like this going with the ladies I work with now though. So all I’ve got left is the fun memories from my old job. I hope after I left they found a new guy to grope