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I was accepted into both a Bachelor of Business Administration and a BA in Psychology, and I genuinely can’t decide which path to take.

I currently work as an admin assistant. I don’t hate office work, I’m good at it, but I do get bored sometimes and can’t tell if I see myself doing corporate/office life long term. I’ve also struggled with mental health for years, which is part of why psychology interests me so much. I’ve considered going into the mental health field, but I’ve also thought about doing a BA in Psychology and eventually becoming a teacher or maybe even a school counsellor.

I’m feeling really stuck between choosing stability/practicality vs something I feel more emotionally connected to. Would love advice from people who went into either field or had to make a similar choice.

One time when I was maybe 14, I was at Metrotown Mall in Van, BC alone waiting outside Old Navy for my sister to finish checking out. I had been going to the mall alone (or at least splitting off while my sister or her mom went into their own stores) or roaming around with my cousin/her friends since I was around 13, so by then I felt pretty comfortable and independent. After my cousin left, I went to meet up with my sister.

My sister and I were on the phone while I waited because she didn’t want me completely alone, but I told her I’d be fine since I was literally right outside the store. Realistically I just wanted to play Hay Day in peace while I waited

Seconds after we hung up, this man probably around his 40s came up to me asking for the time. Then he started asking what I was doing, what I bought, if I was with anyone. He crouched beside me while talking and at first it felt more weird than scary. Then he started asking if I liked ice cream and whether I preferred vanilla or chocolate. He kept trying to convince me to go get ice cream with him because he “didn’t see my sister around,” saying it would be quick and he’d buy it for me.

Thankfully I was smart enough to know this was absolutely not normal. I started panicking and lied saying my sister was coming, waved at some random person, then bolted into Old Navy. The second I said my sister was coming he immediately stood up and walked away fast.

I remember walking inside and my sister was literally just coming around the corner looking for me saying, “I thought you were waiting outside.” I was SO relieved. We got to the car and I told her what happened, and I remember her feeling guilty and calling the mall to report it with the location and timestamp.

I didn’t really think much about it afterward, but now that I’m older it randomly hits me how vulnerable I actually was even though I didn’t feel vulnerable at the time. And I think about how differently that could’ve gone if I was more naive, more trusting, or not educated enough to know that situation was dangerous.

Just late night thoughts I guess. I’m really grateful nothing more happened to me.

F24, Canada. I’ve never had a lot of confidence in myself. Throughout high school, I had some pretty awful teachers constantly telling me I wouldn’t succeed academically and that going to school would be a waste of time. I think that mindset stuck with me more than I realized.

For the past 6 years, I’ve been working as an admin at an environmental consulting firm and make around $65K a year. On paper it’s stable, but deep down I really want to feel relevant like my work actually matters and that I’m capable of doing something meaningful. Lately I’ve been wondering if it’s too late to change careers, or if I should just stick it out even though I constantly feel below everyone around me.

Part of me wants to go back to school, but I honestly don’t even know what for. I just know I want more for myself than feeling stuck and doubting my abilities all the time.

I’ve considered becoming a primary school teacher because I know firsthand how much teachers can impact a child’s confidence. I’d love to be the kind of teacher that helps build kids up instead of making them doubt themselves the way some of my teachers did growing up. But whenever I bring it up, people around me tell me it’s not worth it — the pay sucks, parents are difficult, and the newer generations of kids are hard to deal with.

I also considered becoming a sonographer, but I constantly doubt myself academically and convince myself I’m not smart enough to get through the schooling. I even thought about accounting and working toward a CPA, but I’ve never felt naturally good with numbers.

The frustrating part is that every career I’m genuinely interested in is something I immediately feel like I’d be terrible at before I even try.

About a year ago I left my old company because I felt completely irrelevant and undervalued. Ironically, I ended up moving to their “competitor” after one of the former project managers reached out to me on LinkedIn about an admin position. She had also left after 15 years because she felt underappreciated, so I felt hopeful making the move.

Honestly, my experience at the new company has been great overall. My boss treats me like an actual person, not just someone there to do work, and the environment is way less pretentious than my old office.

One of the biggest issues at my previous company was how entitled some people were, especially toward admin staff. There was one co-op student in particular who never bothered learning my name and referred to me as “the girl at reception” for 8 months. He was only nice to people he considered important or useful.

Well… he ended up getting hired at my current company.

The office here is much smaller, so now I work closely with him every day helping with reports, invoices, etc., and I’m genuinely struggling not to lose my mind. He still acts exactly the same, arrogant, dismissive, constantly correcting people, always needing to point out some “issue,” and only being friendly to people he thinks matter.

The craziest part is that when he came in for his interview, he introduced himself to me like we had never met before. We literally worked together during his entire co-op term at my old company.

Before they hired him, one of the partners here that reached out to me for employement actually asked for my honest opinion because they specifically said they don’t want to hire “assholes.” I tried to be fair and just said he wasn’t very friendly to me and treated people differently depending on their status. I didn’t want to interfere with someone getting a job.

working with him every day is exhausting. Even simple interactions irritate me because everything feels condescending or entitled. I invited him out for drinks with the team one Friday just trying to be nice, and he responded with “No, I have a girlfriend.” Like… okay? I’m engaged lol.

I know every workplace has difficult personalities, but I genuinely cannot understand people who only respect others they view as “important.” It’s such a weird way to move through life.

F24 I used to believe that if you kept your sex life active and made sure your partner felt desired, they wouldn’t have a reason to cheat. I have a high sex drive and genuinely enjoy the connection, the closeness, and feeling wanted. Most of the time, I’m the one with the higher drive (I have the will to want it once a day where as he’s every other day maybe every 3 days)

A couple of years ago, I found out my partner had been messaging OnlyFans girls and even reaching out to sex workers for nudes.

He has made an effort to be more appreciative for me, gotten rid of socials willingly but now I’m just insecure and don’t like my body.

I know I’m anxious in this relationship and haven’t been able to leave but it still crosses my mind sometimes. I can’t help but wonder why he felt the need to go behind my back for that, when I was right there the whole time. I never turned him down, I was open, I kept things exciting, and I really thought that would be enough.