u/Informal_Spirit1195

For some background, I was the one that left. We had been together for a year and living with each other for 4 months. We were staying at her parents house and I had committed to 3 years there. I probably didn’t leave in best fashion. We had a fight about me being uncomfortable with the baby daddy staying at the house when he was in town, I started packing in the middle of that argument. I felt like I lost my independence after living alone for so many years and it got to my head that at 35 this wasn’t wear I wanted to be in life.

We fell hard and it got codependent very quickly, we’ve both had problems with that in the past.

So when would be a good time to reach out about getting my stuff? I left most my stuff.

6 years sober. Me and my lady had a falling out. Went to an extended stay with my cat. Started drinking immediately. Didn’t even think about it. My family wants me to come over and sober up and stay with them until my new apartment is ready. I can’t seem to stop now that I’ve started.

This may not be the most popular point of view but it’s what’s kept me sober for some years now.
All the drama people put around their sobriety is the same drama they carried in their addiction.
You accidentally did this or that and need to know if you should change your sober date, or you missed meetings for a week and now you’re doomed.
It’s all the same attention seeking BS people did when they were out there.
I finally got sober and have stayed sober when I calmed the drama, realized I’m capable of knowing right from wrong, gave myself enough grace to be human and stopped putting unreasonable rules and expectations of perfection on myself.
Got drunk again? Okay, well don’t do it again, took a pill “on accident”, well be more careful with what you put in your mouth.
End of the day no one cares more about your sobriety than you do, you’re the one that has to live with it.
Do it or don’t, but stop with the dramatics.

6 years ago I just kind gave up on the shitty life style. I had gone through rehab twice and relapsed after both, went to countless meetings and nothing seemed to work.

On this day 6 years ago something just switched in my brain. I had no desire to keep doing what I was doing and I ended up just working towards putting my life back together. I didn’t attend meetings after that, no treatment or therapy, just kind of gave up trying to make the drinking work.

Has anyone else had this experience?