u/Inner_Floor8259

I never have been in any, but recently there was someone who expressed interest in me (we met online and he video called), and he wants to see me in person.

We sat a date for earlier next month and honestly the idea is eating me up. I don't think I am deserving of love because I am ugly or at best average. Even if this person accepts my look, I would forever feel insecure and that I am not enough for him, especially that he's above than average himself.

When I think about it, I tell myself that It sucks to be my boyfriend, because I am not confident in my appearance and all the time I am in my own bubble because I hate the idea of myself existing.

Do you happen to tell your boyfriend/girlfriend about your BDD?

I want to be as natural as possible but I am not very comfortable with my bare face without anything on, because I am pale and my lashes are not visible unless I put vasline and curl them.

Maybe I am overthinking this a bit too much, but would it be "deceiving" if I curl my lashes, put on a concealer on the two pimple marks I got, and a tint on my cheeks and lips?

I know that ideally I shouldn't put on anything but I just don't feel comfortable like that, but at the same time, I am overthinking whether he will think I look like that after I wake up from sleep 😭😭😭

Assalamualaykum Warahmatu Allah,

I want to hear about what sisters here asked for Mehr, also brothers what they gave as mehr.

I am not sure what to ask for, initially I thought of Umrah together, but it might be a bit expensive for him. I want something symbolic and accepted in Shariah. Alhamdulillah I am good financially so I am not thinking about something that has a lot of financial value.

My potential is very sweet and religious, so I don't want to burden him.

Assalamualaykum Warahmatu Allah,

I (24F) grew up having some insecurities, some of them I could fix Alhamdulillah and some others cannot be fixed unless I do a plastic surgery like a nose job. My friends tell me I am beautiful but I personally struggle with seeing myself beautiful enough.

I realized this is something to be worked upon, and I started putting more work in my appearence and self-care and also started therapy just this month. I was hoping to fix all these before considering marriage.

But Allah has put in my way a very good potential Alhamdulillah, when we met, he told his mother that there's baseline attraction and he was ready to move forward with me.

So far all good, and most likely, we are going to get engaged this summer and get married not so long after.

I have been thinking about how insecure I feel about my body right now because I have a little belly, new acne scars, and dark circles. I am also not very secure in my facial features.

I am not sure how I can help myself these next weeks to not let this affect the marriage. I am not someone to speak about my insecurities (I only did with 2 close friends), so I am willing to hide them. But I am afraid this will impact intimacy and other things.

If you have any advice please tell me.