u/Insert_Username999

I don't really have anyone to talk to about this, so I'm posting here.

I cut contact with my family because I came to find out my mom's husband was sexually abusing my dog and then later on was allowed to keep puppies. At first I didn't understand everything that was happening, but as I got to around age 16 i started to notice things.

My mom would get drunk and rant to me and my girlfriend about what he had done, including details that still haunt me. When I was 15, I was told to lie to the police. Looking back, I realize how powerless I was.

Every time I heard someone say, "The dog needs a bath," my stomach would sink. I dreaded hearing those words because of what I knew they meant, and there was nothing I felt I could do.

Going no contact was difficult. It meant losing my mom, my sister, who by the way mistreated my girlfriend, and my pets. I still miss my dog every day, and I constantly worry about the other animals.

Now I'm torn. Part of me feels I need to report what I know because I don't want any more animals to be harmed and to a stranger it'd be a no brainer. Another part of me worries about what it would mean for the rest of my family and my mom relying on dual income. I've carried this for years, and it's exhausting.

I don't know if I'm looking for advice or just needed to finally say this out loud.

My family sweeps this under the rug and i actually work at the same place her husband does in trades. It takes everything in me not to cause a scene. Im heartbroken, ive lost my family, and im only 21. Ive carried this for years and its affected my relationship greatly. I dont even know if we will last.

I work in a fab shop yard as a general laborer in canada. I'm 22 and save all my money, i make $23 an hour and i dont really have any bills currently. Im in a really lucky position but im worried for my future. Im a highschool dropout with a year of experience at this place, and i take public transport everyday. Getting my full license in november and i'm looking to buy a car asap.

Heres my thing man. I see people drive BMWs with purple headlights and roaring v8's. Majority of the houses in my area are beautiful, and i generally just wonder to myself what these guys do that allow them to live so luxurious. Skidoos, beautiful trucks, happy children. Surely not everybody is educated on real estate or stocks, so how does one move up in the world? Is it years of being an electrician? Sales? I feel stressed out at this age. Feels like you get thrown in the world, told "find a good career" but you arent exactly told what a good career is, there isnt "one size fits all" when it comes to salaries and jobs, it always looks like people are in the right place at the right time or have connections, or a degree in something so niche. Any others in their early 20s feeling a bit scrambled?