AITA for feeling hurt that my friend has been acting differently and prioritizing her boyfriend?
So I have a close friend, and recently things between us have felt really off.
At an event, we had planned to hang out together, but she brought her boyfriend and ended up spending most of the time with him. At one point, when I went to join her, she walked away with him without saying anything, and I was left alone for quite a while. That’s where I first started feeling hurt.
We argued about it briefly, and I told her I felt ignored. During that conversation, I also made a joking comment along the lines of “we’ll have to teach him a lesson,” referring to her boyfriend since we had previously agreed that i would be the 'bad cop best-friend' . I didn’t mean it seriously, but I realize it could have come off badly, and I did apologize for it afterward.
Since then, her behavior has noticeably changed. She’s more distant, doesn’t include me the same way, and seems to be prioritizing other people more. We also went on a group trip, and during that time she came across as dismissive and a bit self-centered (like expecting help but not really acknowledging it). I still helped her out when she needed it, but it didn’t feel mutual.
After the trip, things stayed awkward. She’s not openly rude, but definitely colder than before, and we don’t talk the same way anymore. I’ve also heard from a mutual that she thinks I’m “rude,” but she hasn’t said that directly to me.
What confuses me is that we used to be really close, she was one of the best friends I ever had so this shift feels sudden and one-sided. I’m not sure if I’m overreacting, if I handled something badly, or if she’s just moved on to other priorities.
am i in the wrong for feeling hurt and unsure about the friendship?