How to find biological parents/family?
Idk if this post really fits in a place like this because this is a bit of an odd situation. Really odd. Buckle in.
I do not know who my mother is. She left when I was young. Apparently she had been a drug addict and possibly mentally ill and my father essentially took us (me and my twin sister) from her. Which I don’t blame him for, she was unstable to be around from what I understand. That doesn’t clear up the weird feeling I have about it. As a girl growing up without a mom was tough. I remember avoiding certain events because I wanted my mom there, but she wasn’t. I remember when I went to my first homecoming with my girlfriend I had a tough time. I wanted my mom helping me get ready and helping me pick out a dress. I’m 20 and with my dad being 50 at the moment, I have to think about… what if she won’t be here? What if it’s too late to find her? I have a name and that’s it. Maybe it’s too late to meet my grandparents.It’s been two decades maybe she’s changed for the better.
Also, I have half brothers. Two of them. One I actually did know for a bit when I was really young, I barely remember him, honestly I don’t know what was a memory or what was a dream. I’ve known about him since I was young, unfortunately he had to be given up for adoption. The other one I know nothing about (other than the fact that my mom apparently pretended he was dead????) all of this did too say, maybe I don’t have a chance with my mom- but I could have a chance with them.
I have talked to my dad about wanting to find my other family, but he kind of doesn’t want to talk about it (understandable) and I talked about a DNA test but he says he thinks it’s a bad idea, he doesn’t trust those kinds of companies and I must admit I’m hesitant myself. What do I do? Do I just give up the search? Is there another way to find them without having to go through 23 and Me or something?