u/Inside-Hall-7901

I lurk a lot on here but don’t post because my issues are a lot less serious than most of yours. I’ve talk to 2 different therapists but they haven’t helped at all. I’m hoping someone on here can give me some suggestions. I (65f) have been married to my partner with BPD (65m) for 38 years. We have 4 grown sons. My partner is very high functioning and on the milder end of the disorder. He’s rarely disrespectful to me (at least in how he views respect). He splits only about 6-7 times a year if I’m careful about the things I say to him that he perceives as negative toward him. My partner has cut off all relationships with 2 of our 4 grown sons because he feels like they’ve disrespected him. Son #1 did cuss him out once by text as an adult and my husband just x’d him out of his life which even though I wish my husband hadn’t acted more like a middle schooler than a mature adult, I get it. Son #4 once made a comment about ICE being public enemy #1 one and since my husband is a retired police officer, took it extremely personally and blew up at him during a Thanksgiving family dinner. He said the comment was aimed at him personally since he was also in law enforcement, I don’t think it was. About  every couple of months he brings up all the wrong things these 2 sons (at separate times) have done since being kids, a lot of which was typical kid stuff; lying, not seriously looking for a summer job one year, opposing political views, other typical kid rebellious stuff etc. My husband makes the comment that he and his brothers would have never been disrespectful to their father like sons 1 and 4 are to him. He currently has a good relationship with son #3 but I’m worried about his relationship with #2. #2 has been very successful in life (Naval Academy graduate, submarine officer and is now a Dr). My husband thinks he looks down on him but I don’t think so. Son #2 isn’t afraid to voice his opinions if he doesn’t agree on certain topics with his dad and he doesn’t call very regularly anymore now that they have a baby. This is  one of  my husband’s BPD traits that is the most frustrating for me - the perception that he has that anyone who doesn’t agree with him, disrespects him. I learned a long time ago that it’s okay to agree to disagree. I know this is a classic BPD trait but would appreciate any ideas on how to make this easier on our family and to keep this momma’s heart from breaking. 

Newbie here, I’ve just started buying silver in small amounts (mostly online) and plan to invest about $500 a month. I’ve only bought American Silver Eagles, and mostly other 1 oz rounds (Morgans, Incuse Indians). Should I keep the receipts? How do I store them? Is it important to plan on having a particular receipt match a particular coin? That seems like a lot of planning, organizing etc.

I bought some comfrey roots online and placed them in soil in a tray with a clear plastic lid. The soil is damp but not dripping much when squeezed. They’ve been in there for 2 weeks now and there is no growth. The seller had excellent reviews. I’m worried they may start to rot. How long can I leave them damp?