This past winter, I found out he had been communicating with another woman in a way that crossed boundaries. He denied it at first, but I later saw messages showing ongoing sexual conversations and attempts to arrange meeting times. I was also shown screenshots from her husband.
A few months later, his child’s mother told me he had also been pursuing her during the same general period. He denied it at first but later admitted it after I confronted him. She also said they had been involved earlier in our relationship.
There have also been messages where he spoke negatively about me to other people.
I tried to move forward after the first situation, but after the second, I feel stuck and unsure what to believe or do.
TL;DR: Repeated cheating/boundary violations in a long-term relationship with planned marriage. I’ve seen evidence and received confirmation from multiple sources. Unsure whether to stay or leave.
Would you stay and work it out, or would you trash it and move forward?