u/InspectionPrudent563

Our ceiling collapsed in the master bedroom, the entire ceiling every single piece of it. A majority of my clothing got destroyed along with a lot of durable medical equipment that was super expensive. Our tv and mattress too and all our bedding.
Everything is covered in fiber glass, and I have severe chronic illnesses so attempting to salvage stuff at the risk of me getting contaminated with fiber glass can’t happen.

Our landlord is having the ceiling fixed but so far that’s it.

The renters insurance is asking us to provide proof and receipts of everything that was damaged… a lot of my clothing is old and I don’t have receipts.

I guess I’m just asking for advice and trying to figure out how screwed we are. We already had to spend a ton for me to get new clothes cause fiber glass hit everything in my closet, I don’t even have underwear. I had to get new everything just to go to work and even cheap Walmart stuff costs money when you need every single piece of clothing to function in society.

We also have a brand new mattress that I do have the receipt for, and a tv that got broke but no receipt for that.
I am very frustrated cause I know they aren’t going to just hand us a check but also, I have to replace thousands in medical garments along with our mattress, tv, blankets, pillows, and almost all my clothes cause very little didn’t get hit (and what didn’t get hit is winter items and it’s 90 where I’m from so it’s not usable for the near future).

We aren’t trying to play the system or get more than what we’re owed, but I also buy expensive clothes and I’m out a large portion of my wardrobe, and it already seems like based off my call with the adjuster that they are already trying to pay as little as possible.

What can I do here? I’m feeling really defeated and our whole lives are turned upside down now. We can’t even touch anything until an in person adjuster comes which is frustrating as well.

I graduated from undergrad back in 2018, and I was dealing with a lot of health issues at the time so I did not have any relationships with any professors (except one who sadly has passed away).

Now that my health conditions have finally been diagnosed and treated, I want to go back to school. I have to do some pre cert classes first, which will take about a year.

I’m trying to prepare for the grad application, and it says you need 3 letters of recommendations either academic or professional.

I have been with the same company since I graduated, I have direct experience with handling patients (going back for a patient facing program). And I’m in management. However, once I get into the grad program and start, I will be leaving my job as it has nothing to do with what I want to go back to school for other than also being in healthcare and I was told working full time during the grad program is basically close to impossible, and my job isn’t exactly one they will allow me to work part time in.

My company is family owned and my supervisor is very vindictive and petty which means me going back to school needs to be a secret until I’m basically ready to quit, and I need to first get through an entire year of the pre certs first while working. I cannot afford to lose my job, and due to my supervisors nature, they will not be supportive if they find out. Which means I don’t have the option to ask them for a professional letter of recommendation of any kind.

What are my other options for people to go to for letters of recommendation? The pre cert classes are 100% online which means I won’t be developing a relationship with the professors so it’s unlikely I can ask them either, although it’s a small possibility.

But let’s say I can’t, what are my options? What can I do from now until August when applications for 2027 need to start going out? Who else could possibly write the letters?

I have a management position at my company, and for context it’s family owned so “hr” isn’t exactly a thing because hr is one of the owners so going to it in this situation for many reasons is not possible at this time.

When I was given my management position I was on the verge of quitting because of some poor treatment but the position came with a raise and an attempt to smooth things over(they did not know I was planning on quitting just that there were issues occurring) largely because I was promised the position for a while at that point.

Now it’s been over a year, and my manager has undermined every attempt I’ve made at doing anything. I’m at this point not even allowed to delegate so much as a phone call to someone without them going to my manager and claiming I’m giving them my work (which with the way our teams are set up is blatantly not true).

So I at this point do not delegate anything to anyone and the only time I refer to myself as a manager is when we are meeting with important business contacts.

I’ve now been told by my manager to stop introducing myself as a manager because other employees have complained. My manager said they know I’m excited about the position but to chill with it because I’m overdoing it. At this point I was shell shocked because I am not excited about the position at all. I havent gotten another raise and it’s been over a year. It’s been made clear I have zero authority in anything and any attempt at managerial work will be undermined. Because my manager undermines me, the employees don’t have any respect for me. I never even attempted to delegate more than work that was for others but somehow made it into my pile by accident, which I then had to do anyways cause of the undermining. And I basically am only a “manager” when it comes to taking heat from difficult customers we work with that the newer employees can’t handle, which makes me basically now the office punching bag for a harsher customers. Pretty much the only shred of management I had left was introducing myself with what is on my business card to business contacts and now that is gone too.

I genuinely love the work I do, and I’m anxious to find another job. But due to the nature of our company, going to the person above my manager isn’t really an option for reasons along the lines of nepotism that I probably says enough without needing further explanation.
I’m not really sure what my options are beyond finding another job, and I’m wondering if this is normal behavior or if it is worth finding another position. I find the idea of asking someone not to use their business title very unprofessional and I also find the complaint of it from employees unprofessional but I don’t know if I’m out of line in thinking that or out of line in thinking that my manager has slowly set up this dynamic where I don’t really have any respect in the company.
Any advice on my options or is the best thing to probably cut my losses with this company?