u/Intelligent_Tone8910

So three days after i came out to my sibling as trans they came out.

Since then ive been struggling between doubting them, feeling threatened by them, and trying to do the right thing.

We reconnected and I came out to them. I thought it would be safe because theyre bi and pretty open. But theyve since made several comments that made me me uncomfortable and I have made that clear

First was like "gonna weird seeing you with tits" which i took as a joke but now I regret.

They then made comments about if I would like "girl c***" and id know if I did. In the context of if I would date a trans woman because they assumed I liked men now.

They also commented on how feminine my legs were. In metal discord chats incest jokes were made and based on responses I think they might be into that.

They also started dating trans lesbian and the relationship is dependent on my siblings transitioning

Ive been using their pronouns and name, trying help guide them to counseling and all the things that helped me. But they seem disinterested. Even affirming resources. But theyre talking about hrt and doing it for a while before coming out to anyone else

Their story changes all the time, like why and when. What feels feminine to them. They'll totally disagree with the group or not get something and when someone says ow its trans thing or a girl thing suddenly they get it. Or two days later they'll bring it up like its their own opinion and claim we all know their memory is bad.

When we discuss femininity with them its either repeating what others say, stereotypes, or kinda sexist things. Like having purple keycaps, and anime girl profile picture, beeing overly emotional, that the cargo work pants they always where were feminine because theyre soft.

I genuinely am not trying to be an asshole here. But I feel like its part a desperate attempt to feel connected, and part fetish chaser. And im maybe little ashamed to admit i think they'll make me look bad and ill be associated with them instead of having my own identity.

I know how hard it was for me to get here and that makes me both wanna help and protective of it. And im maybe little ashamed to admit i think they'll make me look bad and ill be associated with them instead of having my own identity. But also id be lying to if I wasnt a little worried im being sexualized.

Im told no one questioning their gender like that is cis. And im afraid ill get hate. Please know I mean well.