Married women
Hi i have a friend (older by far) more like my mom's friend but we do talk alot hence me considering her a friend as well....
She's married and happy (i think so) as outwardly she seems and carries herself as a happy married woman. I know her husband and in the public eye they seem happy and they have two kids.
I've noticed sth tho ,everytime it's only me and her talking she consistently tells me to "avoid" marriage or if i choose it to choose it where i am financially stable and ready... sometimes i pick that she regrets (tho not sure) as she constantly tells me about her past uni friends who chose career paths and it's like she feels behind since most of these uni friends have made it like career wise ,some went abroad and thriving and the likes of such success that is seen as great.......
She says she sometimes feels drained since ever she got kids ,she left corporate permanently and is a Stay at home mom Till date..
Her kids are teens right now.
I'm trying to empathise with her as much as i can.
She's being provided for and all of that but she claims her self identity was "robbed" if i may use that word.
she mentioned sometimes she feels bad her career is down the drain whereas the husband continues climbing the career ladder as he's still working..
This whole situation got me thinking, women really sacrifice a lot for the sake of their family at the expense of their own self . I'm not saying it's bad to love family.
Sometimes i ask do other married women experience such but maybe have no one to share to cause outwardly they look happily married??
If yes i empathise with y'all greatly and hugs....
I love this friend so much that i am carrying the emotional weight of her sharing this constantly and i honestly don't know how to help other than offer a hearing ear...i usually let her talk till she feels better...
Like right now she has sent me a text saying thank you for the time we spent together as i had gone to say hi to her since she lives close to me as well.
I've realized she only talks to me about how she's feeling hence me listening to her consistently.
Sharing here to feel lighter as I can feel The emotional weight of it so much esp her explanation of how she feels..... it's getting to me , I don't know how to relax as I'm deeply thinking about her and her feelings.
I'd appreciate tips.