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Am I the only one who feels like I’ve lost the ability to just sit and do one thing without getting distracted?

Especially now that almost every house has WiFi, I feel like most of us are constantly multitasking the entire day. Personally, I’ll put on a YouTube video on the TV, then immediately start scrolling on my phone at the same time. I can’t even finish a 20-minute video without switching to something else halfway through.

I used to sit and read books for like 3 hours a day with no problem, but I’ve completely lost that ability. And honestly, I can feel it affecting my life more and more.

I also think having unlimited content and entertainment everywhere has changed our brains. Some of us can barely even watch local Kenyan TV shows anymore because our brains are so used to constant stimulation and dopamine from faster content online.

I genuinely can’t remember the last time I watched a full 2-hour movie without touching my phone or taking breaks.

Are you guys also experiencing this or ni mimi tu?

Wuehh… Jana kulikuwa crazy. Kuna this girl tuko almost kufika mwisho ya talking stage, but after what happened yesterday sioni kama tunaweza move forward. Ana do job kazi kwa saloon/kinyozi and this crazy woman alikuja jana akaanza kumpiga na kumvuta nje while slapping her because anadhani this girl anachat na husband wake. Ilikuwa scene mbaya sana. Nilikuwa nataka kukimbia nimsaidie but watu walikuwa already wameseparate wao. Then huyo woman akarudi tena round two akaanza ku mvuruta nywele tena and the girl alikuwa anapiga nduru na kulia.

Mimi nilikuwa kwa nyumba but place anafanya kazi iko opposite side ya building yetu so nilikuwa naona everything kutoka window yangu third floor. Wuehh… sijui why but after jana nilipoteza tu interest completely. Crazzyy

I heard something recently that really stuck with me.

A guy lost his brother, went for the burial… and then died in a road accident on his way back home.

Same family. Same week. Two deaths. If you’re African, you already know how people react to this kind of thing. Nobody calls it coincidence. People start saying there’s something “following” that family. That it’s a curse.

And I get it. Honestly, it feels like that. Because how do you even explain something like that? It doesn’t feel random at all. It feels targeted.

But I’ve been thinking about it differently.

There’s this idea called a Black Swan (from Nassim Nicholas Taleb). Basically, it’s a rare event that hits hard and makes no sense when it happens.

The tricky part is, after it happens, our brains try to force an explanation because we hate accepting that something so painful could just be… chance.

So instead of saying “this is extremely unlikely but possible,” we say “this family is cursed.”

You see it in other situations too. Some families just seem to have everything go wrong. Nobody really makes it. There’s always illness, or disability, or constant financial struggle. From the outside, it looks like a pattern. Like something is wrong with them.

But if you break it down, it’s not that mysterious.

Some of it is genetics. Some of it is environment. If you grow up with fewer opportunities, that already sets a direction. Then problems start stacking. One setback makes the next one more likely.

And then randomness just makes it worse.

The uncomfortable truth is that bad things don’t spread out nicely. Sometimes they pile up in one place. Out of millions of families, some are just going to get hit harder than others, purely by chance.

But we don’t like that explanation. It feels cold. So we replace it with something that feels more meaningful, even if it’s not true.

Calling it a curse might make it easier to explain, but it also kind of puts a label on people who are already going through hell.

I don’t think everything needs a deeper meaning like that. Sometimes life just hits the same place twice.

Your thoughts on this?