u/Interesting-Level116

Sorry English is my third language and im learning a fourth so i might misspell or not use paragraphs right.

mother (49?) and my father (59?) Have a really rocky marriage, the amounts of fights that could have ended in a divorce is basically endless and I (almost 16) have been parenting and saving their marriage by basically being their home therapist.

Their fights can get very aggressive but 99% of them were all caused by my mother for stupid reasons. My father is rn battling cancer and has been in another country for almost a year now, mama and I r still in our home country so we call each other when we're not visiting, today my mom called my dad and asked him why he didn't answer and he said "i was busy" then she had a crash out cuz he didnt tell her what he exactly was doing (he was in the bathroom) she accused him of not sharing enough stuff abt his day (mind u this is the first ever time he didnt tell her why he didnt answer and SHE CUT HIM OFF before he could say anything).

when she complained and cried to me i told her "mama dont stress or else you'll get yourself sick" and then she started saying that im always against her, i hate her, that me and my dad r the good ones and she's the horrible one, calling herself a terrible mother and threatened to yk herself.

Another time when i was 11 she fought with my dad because of money if i remember well and she pretended to yk what herself infront of me and my dad. She also has told me that i was the reason my dad "didnt fix himself yet" and that they're like this because i wont take my father accountable (for what? idk.) Another time i was 11-12 years old and when my dad was at the mosque she pretended to d-e infront of me, said her last words, was "taking her last breath" passed out on the floor and all that. talk about dramatic, and that fight was because MY FATHER GOT BUSY AT WORK AND SHE THOUGHT HE WAS CHEATING JUST BECAUSE (mind you at that time they worked together so girly how is he cheating on u if ur already with him at the same place at the same time and the whole workplace support your marriage and deem you as the golden couple?).

But back to me being on my dad's side, i never tell her "mama, dad's right" or insult her or is against her, only "calm down mama" and "maybe talk to him and tell him why you feel that way" and all of it is met with the same words, "WHY ARE YOU ALWAYS AGAINST ME? IM THE WORSE MOTHER IN THE WORLD. ITS ALWAYS MY FAULT, I SHOULD BLAH BLAH BLAH"

I still love my mom don't get me wrong but she can be too much and her side of the family keep feeding into that anger and not to mention that she doesnt like when i or dad talk about those fights with other people saying "outsiders dont need to know our business" but that feeling disappears as long as SHE is the one telling the story.

My mother has done ALOT more but this post would be wayyyy too long. so... AITA?

(had to sensor some things but i hope you understand)

Sorry English is my third language and im learning a fourth so i might misspell or not use paragraphs right.

mother (49?) and my father (59?) Have a really rocky marriage, the amounts of fights that could have ended in a divorce is basically endless and I (almost 16) have been parenting and saving their marriage by basically being their home therapist.

Their fights can get very aggressive but 99% of them were all caused by my mother for stupid reasons. My father is rn battling cancer and has been in another country for almost a year now, mama and I r still in our home country so we call each other when we're not visiting, today my mom called my dad and asked him why he didn't answer and he said "i was busy" then she had a crash out cuz he didnt tell her what he exactly was doing (he was in the bathroom) she accused him of not sharing enough stuff abt his day (mind u this is the first ever time he didnt tell her why he didnt answer and SHE CUT HIM OFF before he could say anything), and when she complained and cried to me i told her "mama dont stress or else you'll get yourself sick" and then she started saying that im always against her, i hate her, that me and my dad r the good ones and she's the horrible one, calling herself a terrible mother and threatened to end herself. Another time when i was 11 she fought with my dad because of money if i remember well and she pretended to slice her throat infront of me and my dad by using a knife in the kitchen (or was abt to). She also has told me that i was the reason my dad "didnt fix himself yet" and that they're like this because i wont take my father accountable (for what? idk.) Another time i was 11-12 years old and when my dad was at the mosque she pretended to d-e infront of me, said her last words, was "taking her last breath" passed out on the floor and all that. talk about dramatic, and that fight was because MY FATHER GOT BUSY AT WORK AND SHE THOUGHT HE WAS CHEATING JUST BECAUSE (mind you at that time they worked together so girly how is he cheating on u if ur already with him at the same place at the same time and the whole workplace support your marriage and deem you as the golden couple?).

But back to me being on my dad's side, i never tell her "mama, dad's right" or insult her or is against her, only "calm down mama" and "maybe talk to him and tell him why you feel that way" and all of it is met with the same words, "WHY ARE YOU ALWAYS AGAINST ME? IM THE WORSE MOTHER IN THE WORLD. ITS ALWAYS MY FAULT, I SHOULD END MYSELF"

I still love my mom don't get me wrong but she can be too much and her side of the family keep feeding into that anger and not to mention that she doesnt like when i or dad talk about those fights with other people saying "outsiders dont need to know our business" but that feeling disappears as long as SHE is the one telling the story.

My mother has done ALOT more but this post would be wayyyy too long. so... AITA?