Have you felt an increase in misogynistic attitudes in the past few years?
I have had some really weird, unexpectedly misogynistic experiences in the past few years that have really shaken my hope/faith in men. I don't want to feel like this, and I often try to reality test to make sure I'm overreacting, but it feels like the general atmosphere in the U.S. at least has gotten more hostile towards women.
One example is the dating app discourse. It feels like the spotlight is always on how hard it is for men (yes, I think it's hard for everyone, and not getting any matches or responses is very difficult). But the women in my life, including myself, have had horrific experiences with apps, where in the worst case they've been assaulted or stalked and in the best case they've been used for sex or the guys make it clear they're only looking for sex, etc. But any mention of this perspective, especially in more "progressive" circles is met with vitriol and reiterating that men have it worse.
The prevalence of rating women and men on 1-10 scales and citing statistics about how women only want 10/10 men when the women themselves are 4/10 or whatever, is making me feel ill. I don't view attraction as something that can be objectified like that. Any discussion of the violence women experience gets sidelined and the focus shifts back onto how men have no options and women have all the control on apps.
I guess I just feel like tension between men and women has never been this high in my lifetime. I'm only 36 so I know it has always been bad, has been worse, etc, but when I was in my 20s I didn't feel this deep hatred and resentment that I feel like I'm picking up on now. I keep wanting to ask if I am delusional or if anyone else is picking up on these feelings as well?