u/Internal_Flow7221

Why do so many bi folks get defensive when someone says we have privilege? Of course, im bi myself and I have a bf. We love each other and we're happy together. But if someone said I have straight passing privilege I'd agree. Especially since I live in the south I don't have to worry about the dirty looks or potential hate crimes. Does this make me less queer no, but it's undeniable that I have a privilege that some other queer people do not have. And privilege doesn't mean you never struggle it just means you have an advantage. This is in good faith, I understand our community is invalidated a lot but getting upset at this topic never made since to me.

I guess I'm just curious about the natalism ideology. Imo the world is not the best place and it would be selfish of me to put any potential child of mine in it. If I could do life over I wouldn't, and if leaving were easy then I would. I wouldn't call myself an anti natalist but I do find people who just have kids without thinking about it to be morally dubious. I won't pretend like my upbringing and possible depression don't impact my view but it's something to consider when having children. I lived in poverty and it really messed me up, not to mention my single mom struggling. Another point is that as a woman, to me the sacrifice is not worth it. Women bear the brunt of everything revolving around children, why would I want that. It just seems wired against us, ofc this is all my personal anecdotes but im interested in how natalism addresses these kinds of beliefs. Of course I can't control if someone has kids and other people can if they want to. I just don't see the point in trying to shame others into having more kids.