u/Intrepid-Lack-5821

Apologies for the inane question but I have been renting privately for a few years and recently moved into a new place with an agent (sigh) . We have been notified of a routine inspection which is fine but also given a cleaning checklist which looks more like an end of lease or bond clean in how much stuff is on it.

My question is how would the PM likely react if we just cleaned the place normally? Do they usually want to come back and check it’s done to their standard if you don’t? We have a new baby and have just gone back to work and really don’t have time for this bs.

Thanks

I don’t really know if I’m looking for advice or just some solidarity. I’m almost 9 months postpartum and just feeling so very lonely. I love my baby and spending time with him but I feel as though I don’t have anyone (other than my partner) who I can turn to and chat about my baby, motherhood or anything in particular.

I’ve recently gone back to work but in a new team as my old team was disbanded while I was on leave (and who most of I wasn’t close with anyway) I don’t know anyone in the new team and we are mostly working remote so I don’t have anyone to chat to there.

Since about 3months postpartum I’ve tried so hard to get involved in mothers groups, mums and bubs community activities etc some of which I’ve really enjoyed and chatted with some other mums while I was at them but didn’t connect with anyone enough to see them outside of the groups.

I went to a babies event at the local library today where we read to our babies and sing songs and just left feeling ashamed and disheartened as there were heaps of mums there all in their little friend groups and (no shade to them) but it just feels impossible to get a conversation happening with any of them.

My family does not live near us and my in laws are useless (live 5 mins away but not interested in the slightest at seeing us or our baby) so that’s not an option either.

I do have a couple of close friends but none of them have kids and they all have work during the week so just feeling lost and like I’m unable to really talk to them either as I’m super self conscious of sounding boring or just droning on about my baby.

This is something I’ve come to be really ashamed of as I feel as though I’m causing it myself and putting out vibes to people where I’m unpleasant or something to talk to and I’m not really sure how else to change it.

At the moment when I’m not working I’m just spending all my time alone with my baby and it’s starting to really get to me.

Anyone else in the same boat or have any tips.