My friend and I had a massive fallout. We initially got closure but now 6 years later, he messaged me again while being in a bad headspace.
So my former best friend reached out to me. I don't know what to make of it.
I was a toxic friend and had major codependency issues. I don't blame him for ending the friendship and I regret my behavior. He also became codependent and did some really messed up things such as hacking my Snapchat. The fact that he was starting high school and I had just graduated just made the dynamics all the more blizzare. The friendship finally ended and we just kept quiet.
2 years later, we reconnected because he initiated it and wanted to talk things out, I even gave him $100 in hopes that if my sorry isn't enough then at least he could enjoy something with the cash. He did not seem wanting to open up yet was eager to meet up, and I made it clear that I'm very sorry, again, but it's best we not remain in contact. We parted ways on good terms and whenever we'd run into each other it was polite and short. That was during Covid.
Then today, 6 years later, he added me from a fake Snapchat account, complete with a fake name, told me who he is, then he begins to ask me why I did what I did, with a "i forgave you a while back but i’ve just been thinking abt it a lot and it’s affected me to this day. i wanna know why you did what you did" and making comments that he was just a kid and he's never done anything wrong.
Then I explain this isn't the time it's 2 am and I'm fixing to sleep so give me some time to get in the headspace to talk about this, then he made a comment "seems like you haven’t changed much ig no offense"
I explained myself and spent two hours to try to reason it out with him, but it is clear he isn't exactly happy with my reasoning yet I think he takes it. He's clearly going through something and has a lot of personal issues going on. We ended on a positive note with a curt "sorry if I said anything offensive" from him.
If anything I am questioning if him being in a bad headspace right now is causing him to displace anger onto me for the past drama we had?
Also he wanted to meet in person but I declined and told him that I feel very ashamed of my past actions but it is best we not have this conversation in person. (And quite frankly I don't feel comfortable especially with the whole fake name situation)