Child Guilt
My mom worked so hard, I get it. She did her best, worked hard, and raised her kids, but now she has no hobbies and, in my opinion, no identity outside of motherhood. It actually hurts to write this, but she’s a helicopter parent.
“What are you doing? Who are you with? Why didn’t you answer?”
I’m an adult on my own, paying my own bills and everything. I’ve set this boundary before.
Please find a hobby.
I can’t take it, but then I feel bad for saying, “Leave me alone.” How do people manage this, or deal with it and still have kids? I don’t want anyone asking me anything, and as a result, I have trouble making friends too. If I do something and you ask me about it again, I feel like you’re checking up on me (because I’d need to be free to help), and it makes my skin crawl.
She’s a worried parent, but one of the reasons I don’t want kids is because I can’t do this. I can’t worry myself sick because someone took a nap and didn’t answer me, or make someone feel like they have to tiptoe around my feelings when I’m wrong or overstepping.
I want to be free - just move to the middle of nowhere in a tiny house with books. No pets, no kids, no parents.
Maybe this is the wrong sub but I need to get this off my chest.