u/Iridescent_Upbeat

Basically, someone said something pretty darn harmful/violent to the OP of a post for asking a fairly harmless question. I denounced it, and eventually they deleted their comment.

Someone else asked what they said, and I answered straightforwardly what they said, and minutes later I see it was removed by Reddit itself and I was warned for breaking rule 1, which isn't even what happened. I was fairly surprised as I made it clear I wasn't the one who said it.

So, should I just not answer these types of questions in the future? I don't really know if I was reported, but it said it was automated so I'm leaning towards no. I've been using Reddit for many years now with no infractions/issues so I was pretty surprised. Don't really know if it's worth it to try to appeal.

(Tldr at the bottom)

I'm 21demi-f and I am very inexperienced when it comes to understanding other girls, and I have never had much guidance from other women. Hoping I could get some possible explanations or reasonings.

Recently, I was talking with an old friend and we realized there was a lil something there. However, I realized he's not over his ex, who had a tendency to harass me for simply being near said friend, many months ago. Their relationship was pretty messy and even his childhood friend was messed up by her.

Way prior to anything happening, I told him not to go back to her, he said he wouldn't go back, he did. Welp, can't control that. I distinctly remember him saying that his friend said he sees him and his female bestie dating if they were single. He then said he doesn't know the future and that he could fall for her. Red flag. Wish I didn't ignore it. The next day, he told me he's getting ready to commit to someone else (who was never mentioned prior), which he only admitted because I wanted to clarify our situationship.

This struck me as weird because he could have told me about this other woman, who I suspect was either his ex or some girl he met irl. The lack of respect for my boundaries, along with feeling like he just wanted to use me led to me quietly severing the relationship since I didn't like where it was going and that he omitted this piece of info. He also blamed me for even talking about it when he was the one who repeatedly begged and pleaded with me to talk about 18+ topics. I initially said no several times, which I wish I stuck to. Tried setting firm boundaries and explaining how I felt just to get a very basic response.

Well, a day later I get a nasty text from his ex, calling me a homewrecker, trying to sabotage their relationship, and other swears. She also used 3 accounts to try to contact me, when I wasn't even aware they were back together. She even joined other servers I'm in just to @ me and I eventually just turned off friend requests and forgot about it. Don't really know why he told her about what happened between us, nor why the aggression was directed towards me, who again, was unaware. She knows I was unaware, and I never responded to her. This was a month ago.

Few days ago, she started joining my Roblox games (lord have mercy...) I have her blocked there, so she had to manually join me via my profile. I feel like this is like... obsession. Might be in my head, idk.

Am I missing something? Why is she acting this way? Did I do something wrong and I'm not understanding? I personally feel he enables her behavior which is another reason why I dipped out. I have felt very peaceful since then.

TL;DR - Ex friend tried to make me his side piece unknowingly, I blocked him for it, his ex-ex-girlfriend started cyberstalking and harassing me calling me a homewrecker, wtf did I do? I feel like she should be mad at him for not being loyal.