u/ItGetsOlld

I was humanly Decent to someone I loathe on behalf of my spouse & now they keep reaching out trying to be besties? I'm talking very basic human decency. Nothing extra.

1. "Beth" is a family member me and my spouse both dread being around. They are self centered, a neglectful parent, and expects everyone at the gathering to watch her kids while she drinks. I stopped going to these gatherings all- together, but a family member passed away and everyone was expected to attend this remembrance "party".

We attended & she immediately B-lined over to the table i was sitting at with his aunt. She asked me some questions about getting the kids together & going to the beach and I politely declined. She asked questions about my future plans and what I like to do in my free time & I would provide dead ended answers that were kind; but short as not to further conversation. I also did not show curiosity about her life, as I knew she really wanted me to ask her about her new job.

Somehow, with me giving bare minimum kindness & kind of gray rocking- she ended up texting me 5 different days! It's a small annoyance, but morally I can't flat out tell her why we don't vibe, because it would start a whole drmatic blowout in his family. In my family, we don't tip toe. We tell people we aren't vibing, and just dip. I really do feel that basic human decency is misleading to dull folks & I feel a dilemma in not just telling her we don't like her. I'm trying to be selfless and just keep grey rocking on the behalf of my husband and the other family members that he does care for.

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I want to get a part time job at an easy-to-get-hired spot. (Fast food, or waiting tables) I just love customer service jobs in particular, I'm bored in life right now. Would I be wrong to work just because I want to? Would I be taking a job from someone else who needs it? Seems like these places are always hiring & over all I am craving nostalgia from my younger years working in that type of job. My dilemma is simply that I worry I'd be taking a job from someone else.

Me and my sister do not have a good relationship, I don't keep her on my socials, we don't stay in contact as of 6 months ago. I love her from a distance. She has 1 child and now is dating a new man and pregnant with his child I care about my sister, but she has become chaotic, and lashes out when she doesn't get her way (golden child). She only comes around when she needs something, and after she gets what she wants she talks shit about the people who help her. (1 see it as projection of her owr feelings about her shortcomings.

This guy who she is already engaged to after only 6 months of dating has a strong social media presence. got curious & googled his name and found he had been commenting under dating groups on a specific platform in his area. With my sister being pregnant I am worried for her health and the babies health, because certair stds can harm an unborn. Problem is if i tell her, she will misplace the anger onto me.

I sent her the screen recordings but i predict one of two things: mavbe she will see it & protect herself and her pregnancy. ----on the other hand----She gets mad at the messenger and says I'm just trying to break them up.

If It was my man out cheating I would want to know, but not all women want to know. Some would rather ignore it like it isn't happening. I am unsure if I did the right thing by sending the Screenrecorings. I'm worried for her because she has a delusion that having a kid with this dude will make marriage work.