Hi! I moved across the US and changed my volunteer cemeteries but when I pull up photo requests it still tells me it's 1800 miles away from me. Is there a way to change my location? I don't see anywhere that I'm able to put in my location.
Thank you!
I didn't stop at the cemetery yesterday to take more photos of undocumented graves. Now I have nothing to do today at work!
It blows my mind that it took over 170 applications and 9 months of looking for work to get this job where I literally have nothing to do all day. My personal mantra "I get paid to be here, I get paid to be here" 😄
So last October I moved cross country to be closer to my elderly father and my 19 year old son decided to not come with me. This has been so difficult but I keep telling myself, or others are telling me. This is normal, part of life, yadda yadda.
Lately I have had no desire to do anything, no hobbies, no cravings for food or desire to eat, no socialization, no keeping house, I just want to go to bed. Then I ran out of my over the counter peri meds. (since my doctor won't prescribe me anything) New meds get here Sunday. All of a sudden the fact that my son is on the other side of the country is causing such heartbreak. I can't function at work, I can't stop crying, I feel like this is the biggest thing in the entire world and I don't know what to do.
I recently moved across the country (West to East) and claimed a few photo requests yesterday. After work I went to the cemetery to take the photos and ran into quite a few problems. Normally my process is I find that I'm in the general area via a map at the cemetery and then look up a nearby grave on findagrave to guide me in the right direction. Yesterday, almost every single grave I tried to look up was not on findagrave.com. I have never encountered this before. Where I lived before everything was logged and we practically had to fight for the photo requests. The cemetery I went to yesterday has over 99+ photo requests.
My question is, I would like to log the graves that I found that were not in the database. How do I go about doing that? (Newly empty nester and looking for projects to fill my time 😄 )
I guess I just need to vent and possibly validation that it's okay. I was raised by a single mom and I'm an only child and then my son's an only child. I wasn't raised that I could be anything I wanted to be, I was raised to be a mom, not a wife or partner, but a mom. I love my son with everything I have and he has been my world his entire life. As he got older I realized that I needed to start making plans for when he no longer lived under my roof. What might I want to do when he decided to live his life on his own? I have no clue.
Senior year of high school and I would get a good 15 minutes from him in between him being a normal teenage boy and super grumpy. I LIVED for those small moments. The rest of the time I worked 3 jobs and spent the nights on my own.
When he began talking about moving out with his friends or to his dad's house in the woods 3 hours away I decided it was time for me to make plans. I decided to move closer to my dad who was getting up there in age and to finally be with my long distance boyfriend. My son originally supported my decision because he was making his own plans. As the time got closer he became more angry and resentful and kind of mean. I understand he didn't want things to change and was realizing it was going to. I realized this too and spend most nights crying.
I moved. He got into trouble, got into trouble again... and learned his lesson. Each time calling me so we could talk through what he needed to do and him making the steps he needed to. I realized I was inadvertently enabling him by being there. Hindsight is 20/20 right? He's grown so much since I've been gone. And I'm in a healthy relationship for the first time in my life. Plus, the relationship with my dad is better than it's ever been. I still have guilt for putting myself and my happiness first. I worry that I made the wrong decision and that somehow me moving away messed him up in ways that I can't see now or didn't at the time. It's so different on this side of the country and I've got my partner but I don't have friends here or any support network really which I'm working towards finding. It's just so hard. Then we add perimenopause on top of that... whew.