u/Itishwhatitis27

I see so much of an old friend in Taylor. Someone who from the start is fun, likeable, and charismatic. Someone who at the start you wonder how can anyone have an issue with this person?

The longer you spend with them the more you see the self-sabotage, the need for admiration and praise, impulsivity that at first was funny but then becomes disturbing, and in all seriousness the living example of anxious attachment.

Friends like Taylor are EXHAUSTING. Always trying to support them through a drama they dug themselves into. Trying to be supportive to someone who is seeking constant validation and unconditional support from everyone in their lives makes it impossible to hold friends like this accountable. I genuinely feel for those in her life trying to call her out for her behaviour in an attempt to help her, but they are in a losing battle. She will condemn them as being unsupportive rather than take on any feedback. And I’m not talking about Mikayla’s statement - I found that too “how can I make this about me”.

At the end of all of this she will be alone. If losing custody of your children isn’t enough of a wake up call to change your behaviour I’m not sure there is ever going to be one.

As per the title, my first pregnancy my baby was IUGR. It wasn’t caught until after he was born. He came a few weeks early and >10th percentile for weight. My placenta was sent off for examination after the report basically showed that it was fucked. Part of it had died, the vessels stopped developing early in the third trimester, and so much more.

I know I want more children, but I’m terrified of this happening again. I was told once the report was back that I was lucky I went into labour early or it could have gone really wrong.

If anyone had IUGR in your first pregnancy, did you get extra monitoring in your later pregnancies? Were your subsequent pregnancies also IUGR?