u/JARStheFox

28F, 5'3", 180ish lbs, daily nicotine vape, prozac daily & hydroxyzine as needed. I've been bleeding heavily since May 2nd, before that my last period was Feb 18.

I've already suspected I was having a miscarriage, I did some research about two weeks ago and it seemed like as long as I felt okay I wouldn't need medical attention. Well, I'm not feeling okay, so I assume I need medical attention, I'm just not sure who I need to go to. There haven't been breaks in the bleeding, and the last couple days it's been brighter red. There are large clots, the biggest have been the size of my palm. Today I'm feeling extremely faint and noticing pain around my c-section scar (c-section performed 5/16/2025 with no complications). I feel nauseous and keep getting cold sweats. I don't know what my temperature is because I don't have a thermometer handy right now. I did take a pregnancy test on 5/6 and it was negative, I hadn't taken one before then but I definitely felt pregnant until around 4/27 when I stopped feeling morning sickness and my breasts stopped hurting.

I hope this is enough information. I'm sorry if this isn't coherent, I'm having a really hard time focusing. I'll give other info as needed.

For context, I'm non-binary, but I'm AFAB and femme presenting so that's not too much of a concern. However, I'm a relatively new convert and don't have an abaya or any modest clothing, and I have a daughter that I created with my non-cis wife (phrasing it like this because I got an alert about a dedicated thread but this isn't the main point of this post), I'm the only Muslim out of the three of us, I'm a Quranist, and I'm a leftist. All of these things make me feel extremely anxious about going.

Logically, I feel like it's really likely that I'll still be accepted, because the city I live in (US) is extremely blue and there are a lot of Muslims here, including plenty of progressive Muslims. But I haven't seen Muslims that dress like me or have families like mine. Will I have to be quiet about my personal life in order to fit in? Do I need to wait to go until I can get an abaya or similar clothing that's more modest than what I have (mostly T-shirts and pants with a hijab)? What if I'm laughed out of the masjid?

Is there anyone else here like me who goes to the mosque? What do you wear? Do you feel comfortable talking about your life?

**Characters (names changed):**

* Me (28, non-binary woman, it/its)

* Zoe, my wife (27, woman, she/her)

* Stella, our friend (our age, non-binary, they/them)

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So Zoe and I are polyamorous and have been since before we met each other six years ago. We date people separately and don't treat crushes like "unicorns" or "thirds," it's very important to clarify this because I know polyamory can get a bad reputation for that (justifyably so, so many couples treat women/femmes like the cure for their relationship. but I digress).

She and I have been crushing really hard on our friend Stella for months now. They're a very important friend to us, so we've been terrified of mentioning this to them. But they're so sweet and adorable, and they're good with our daughter, and I also think they've been dropping hints at both of us separately??? We just talked about this to each other tonight. Stella's mentioned polyamory a few times, and we're openly polyam so it's not super weird to consider this a hint, but like... aaaahhh! They've also done that whole "make eye contact and avert your eyes" thing that lesbians do, you know?

Please help these two useless lesbians out. Should we bring it up? Should we say nothing to maintain the friendship? Should we scream into the void? Maybe I should make extra salah??? HALP