This bothers me alot. I opened up about some of the stuff I went through and I was met with "Ooh, I went through alot worse than you and I'm ok" or "X person went through stuff alot worse than you, and look they just changed their environment and everything is good! Just toughen up!" or "what you're doing is totally okay, I used to do that too, don't worry." after telling them I binged and purged. Pleasee just stop. Can't I just have someone to listen to me without comparison or giving out advice? I hate it when they do this, it makes me feel like what I went through is so small and insignificant compared to them or someone they know. I just want to be heard and not invalidated. There's only a select few I can open up to, and even if I want to open up so much, my fears are holding me back.
u/Ja9tabzz
Theres this emptiness inside me and I do stupid stuff just to fill it, though nothing fills it as well as cutting. The pain is so addicting and the sight of the blood makes me feel so valid. I was always invalidated. My family tells me what I went through is nothing and I should be grateful because alot of people have gone through aloooooot worse. They even defend and take good care of my abusers up to this day. They're living such a carefree life while I have to deal with the damage.
Not even the meds I take makes me feel better compared to SH, each session I want to add even more and make it deeper. Hurting myself makes me feel like I deserve the abuse and it comforts me. I just want to feel valid. I don't know how to cope in a healthy way, I was never taught how to.