u/Jackie_Capt1407

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Essentially, I’ve been struggling with my mental health a lot for years and recently after a minor seizure (doctors said it was my body shutting down due to too much emotion) I was told I should see a professional.

That was almost 3 months ago.

However, the only reason I possible got “urgent” care was cuz I finally broke and explained everything (including what I didn’t realise as plurality) to the doctor. She was kind and understanding and didn’t tell my parents the real story at my request and said everything was due to “exam stress (I’m 16 doing GCSEs uk) with recent events (grandad lost his battle with cancer)”. And while all this did play a lot with my mental health, it has actually been an issue for a few years.

But that all happened while on adrenaline.

And now I’m a bit nervous to just unravel everything to this new person. I know I should explain everything but I’m unsure as to “how fast” I should. Altho recently I’ve actually been getting much better mentally (probably since realising I’m plural and accepting that) so the no.1 thing I really want to start with is my plurality. But I feel like that’s a lot to start with.

(tldr) So what do u think we should do? Is it ok to dive straight in with plurality or should we start smaller? Any suggestions or encouragement is greatly appreciated. Sorry if I’ve rambled and missed info (probs have lol)

(ngl tho im actually really kinda scared 🥲😭)

Hi Reddit.

We're still new to this and still learning but we are really confused/curious.

So we know we've been a system for about 6 months now, but we're unsure as to when it really began. It was just 3 of for a while but recently we've gained 2 more.

However, one of them (Malcom/Mal) seems to be a lot like our best friend. But we didn't really realise how much until we came out to our bsf and explained the little we know. When we told them about Mal, they said, "he sounds exactly like me. It sounds like ur subconscious mind has created a version of me for the system lol”

This has been playing with us a bit and we're struggling to understand if it's just coincidence or if it's something more significant.

We are extremely close with our bsf so it could make sense but we're still confused and it's bugging us a bit. Not in a bad way we're just curious.

We’re grateful for any info or support.

- JJ (host)

Hi Reddit.

We're still new to this and still learning but we are really confused/curious.

So we know we've been a system for about 6 months now, but we're unsure as to when it really began. It was just 3 of for a while but recently we've gained 2 more.

However, one of them (Malcom/Mal) seems to be a lot like our best friend. But we didn't really realise how much until we came out to our bsf and explained the little we know. When we told them about Mal, they said, "he sounds exactly like me. It sounds like ur subconscious mind has created a version of me for the system lol”

This has been playing with us a bit and we're struggling to understand if it's just coincidence or if it's something more significant.

We are extremely close with our bsf so it could make sense but we're still confused and it's bugging us a bit. Not in a bad way we're just curious.

We’re grateful for any info or support.

- JJ (host)

Pretty much what the title says. I do have way more labels than just these but imma start with one of these as they’re like my loudest pride if u get me

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TLDR: I’ve been asexual since I was 12 and never experienced sexual attraction, but now I’m 16 and lesbian, I’ve started considering if it was just dick I hated. I’m still occasionally uncomfortable with the idea of any sex. But was this just a phase?

When I started exploring my identity (at 12-13yrs old), asexuality immediately hit home and I’ve been comfortable with that for years. I’ve always hated the idea of having sex and I’ve never really experienced sexual attraction.

But (now 16) I recently came out as lesbian rather than pan (romantic) as I thought I liked men but I think I was trying to force that on myself (grew up in strict Christian household). Since then I’ve realised that when I thought about having sex I always assumed it with dick. I think that’s what made me so disgusted by sex. But now I’m thinking about it with women I’m not as disgusted. Sometimes idm the idea, like I’d try it ig. But sometimes I’m still uncomfortable with the thought (just not quite as disgusted by it). Important to add tho I still don’t experience sexual attraction.

So does this sound like asexuality or was it really just a phase? I’d hate for to just be a phase cuz most of my pride has been centred on my asexuality for years as it was the most stable and strongly connected pride for me. But I also understand that I was young etc etc. and loads of homophobes would come at me saying “oH yEaH sEe ToLd YoU iT wAs A pHaSe” and I just want to prove them wrong but idkkkkk 😭

TLDR: I’ve been asexual since I was 12 and never experienced sexual attraction, but now I’m 16 and lesbian, I’ve started considering if it was just dick I hated. I’m still occasionally uncomfortable with the idea of any sex. But was this just a phase?