u/Jaded_Barber3607

Problem/Goal: Someone's courting/asking me out and this time I'm kinda considering if i'd finally try to date again

Context: Okay, so I just need some opinion and advice before I enter something. I'm 28F and have never been in a serious relationship. I only had one ex and that only lasted for 3 weeks (that was 6 years ago) and i wasn't emotionally attached (same with him), i only entered the relationship all for the game of experience. All throughout my life i never really longed for a relationship or having someone. I even believed i might be aromantic, but i do get attached sometimes (it rarely happens tho). But even if i do like someone or are attached to them, the idea of being in a serious relationship or committing still makes me uneasy, it makes me run away. All i could think of is the pressure and expectations of being someone's partner, the responsibilities and obligations that comes with it. Like I'm worried about having to sharing my time, arranging my life around a partner like having to constantly update someone, constant texting or calls, having to consider someone before making any decisions or doing something, expecting to be somewhere, planning together, managing someone's emotional needs etc.

I've lived most of my life single so that's maybe why i value my independence too much and got used to enjoying my own company. (I have friends and siblings as company at times) I've never been jealous and envious of people who are happy with their romantic life. It's like I don't really crave for a romantic partner and I don't really have the energy or excitement to talk or entertain someone unless it's for casual and fun (but even that i got burnout just recently, mainly online chatting). I never felt lonely in general unless I'm in the mood (iykyk). But right now, someone i used to know wants to court me or date me and I'm kinda considering it because maybe i haven't just gotten enough experience to really know for sure if dating is for me or not, but also afraid i might be wasting someone's time. Yet i also think maybe I'll try and see? But honestly, i don't see myself settling or getting married or having children. And the idea of being someone's partner still makes me overthink the responsibilities and obligations and my loss of independence. I'm also kinda uneasy about being truly known or show vulnerability.

Should i try dating and see for myself? Get some experience and learn from it? Btw I already said i'm not ready for anything serious but he insists on wanting to try cause what if we work. But tbh i don't have the plan or excitement of committing longterm tho What are your thoughts?

SKL one of the unforgettable names na na-encountered ko.

I might consider dating but can't see myself being in a relationship