u/Jaded_Syllabub3682

I am so lost in terms of my career. I can never stick to something and it is so frustrating. I finished sixth form (school) about 8 years ago with really good grades, and was dead set on being a physicist. I then studied theoretical physics for about a year, but it was completely different from how I thought it would be, so I transferred to Mechanical Engineering.

I did the first year of undergrad, but then started to absolutely despise it in second year. Around this time, my mental health took and absolute nose dive and looking back, I was barely functioning as a person. I got myself out of that rabbit whole, transferred my credits to a different university and then finished my degree, and graduated (ultimately ending up with a degree that was a mixture of statistics and physics).

After graduating, I literally had no clue what I wanted to do, so I decided to go into Maths Teaching (it made sense at the time). Well care to take a guess how that went? Like everything else, I went into it thinking I had found the answer, but ultimately ended up despising it. I finished the course, but I absolutely knew I did not want to be a teacher.

Now this leads me to my latest idiotic decision. I decided to get a job in sales. Now you would think that this decision makes literally zero sense given I am an INTP-A who generally doesn't like interacting with people, and isn't particularly money motivated, but it made sense at the time.

Surprise, surprise, I loathe it and I am back to square one. I don't know what to do, because it is not like I make these decisions lightly. I spend weeks and weeks researching these opportunities / paths, I create decision matrices, I evaluate what I want out of said opportunity / path in terms of benefits and how it plays into my skillset...and every single time, it makes sense. But ultimately I just grow to fucking hate it. And then when I look back, I have no clue what I was thinking. I feel like I am broken.

I don't know who to talk to about this. A careers advisor will just give you all the standard advise ("What are you good at? What do you want out of a career..."). Do I need therapy? Have other INTPs struggled with this? What did you do?

I have been with this woman for 2 years, and we are celebrating our anniversary in Aachen. I love her more than anything in the world, and I want to take her somewhere really special. I haven't got a clue about the local area, and although I have done some research on google maps, I figured I should get some local insider advice.

What I am really looking for is a romantic & intimate wine bar / restaurant. Somewhere cozy, with warm lighting and an ambient atmosphere. I looked into Vertical die Weinbar, but unfortunately they are not open on Mondays.

Any guidance would be much appreciated.