u/Jammool

Assalamu Alaikum everyone,

I am looking for some advice and perspectives from people who have been in a similar situation.

Alhamdulillah, I was recently introduced to a sister for the purpose of marriage. Because of our locations—I live in the EU and she lives in the Middle East—we haven't been able to meet in person yet. We have been chatting for a while, and we both agreed to set a specific timeframe for this talking stage so we don't drag things out if we aren't a good match.

There are two main things I am hoping to get advice on:

The Age Gap: There is an age gap between us. For those of you with an age gap in your marriage, how did you navigate it? What were some unexpected things you ran into, or things you argued about because you didn't discuss them beforehand?

Conversation Topics: To be completely honest, Alhamdulillah, I have never been the type of guy to talk to or hang out with girls. Because of this, navigating these conversations is a bit tricky and a little hard for me. I am not always sure what exactly we should be talking about.

Could you kindly share some advice on the absolute must-discuss topics before getting married? Especially things regarding the transition from the Middle East to the EU, lifestyle differences, and future expectations?

BarakAllahu Feekum, and thank you in advance for your help!

I was wondering if anyone has experienced this before or knows what's going on.

I had a contact on Telegram that I know had an account because I could see their last seen status. They weren't very active (sometimes their last seen would be a couple of days ago), but I know they were definitely using Telegram. They even viewed one of my Stories/Status once.

I recently deleted my own Telegram account so I could reinstall it and start fresh. After creating my account again, that same contact now shows as if they don't have a Telegram account at all. I've already synced my contacts, but it still says they're not on Telegram.

The strange thing is that this has actually happened before. At one point Telegram showed that this number wasn't on Telegram, then later it started showing the account again with a last seen, so I'm confused why it's disappeared again.

Has anyone else experienced this? Is it a Telegram sync issue, a privacy setting, or could it mean they deleted their account? Any ideas would be appreciated.