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TLDR: is it normal to be moody in a relationship but not when single

When I’m with a partner I occasionally get sad, have less engagement in back and fourth in conversation (ie sit and listen but don’t respond), and get distant. My facial expressions can be less bubbly. I find this happens around the week before menstrual cycle.

That being said, I do not notice these symptoms when I am single and on my own. When I’m on my own, I am perpetually happy.

I wonder why this is. I’ve been thinking that perhaps when I’m in a relationship, I’m accountable to spend time together and so if I notice any shift in energy and mood I need to announce that. I announce it so my partner doesn’t think I’m uninterested or that it is his fault. But, when I announce it, it makes the mood more “real.” I announce it with ideas and take responsibility for my feelings, but I feel like I’m pulling my partner down with my mood energetically. When I’m alone I can cope but when with someone I need to announce my feelings-and this, experience low energy alone without need to announce or justify. Also, the low energy kicks in at inconvenient times like half way through a coffee shop date.

Is this normal? I have a period protocol that I made in my last relationship where I do period specific self care things. I never lash out or get annoyed at my partner, I just get low energy and can be more sensitive to negative thoughts.

I just want to know if this is a common experience or if this is just me. I used to think it was related to my dynamic with my last partner, but now I’m seeing it extends to relationship dynamics in general. It makes me wonder if I’m fit to be in a relationship. I want to be the golden retriever happy go lucky bubbly girlfriend all the time, but I’m more so along the flow of my cycle, and somewhat emo (again, I take responsibility for my feelings)

For context, I have inattentive ADHD and PMDD. My PMDD is well controlled with medicine and I am emotionally self aware and see a therapist. I take Zoloft and Wellbutrin. I have been wondering if I need a stimulant or something.

TLDR: is it normal to be moody in a relationship but not when single

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