u/JazzlikeStorm2070

I’ve been completely fooled by it twice now, because although it was intense it felt right and I reciprocated, both times led into very intense but short lived relationships, where we were inseparable and planning our future together. Then one day bam ghosted and made to feel shameful for trying to make contact and ask what had happened.

Is it possible the feelings were real? I can’t believe people can be that good at acting?
Is it always calculated and they know they are doing it all along? So none of it was ever real?
Or was it real but they are just fickle?

I’m really shocked at the increasing attitude I’m seeing at the moment of students just trying to shortcut and find hacks to get a grade.

What’s the point of a good grade if you don’t actually know the content?

When you turn up to your first post grad job and can’t demonstrate the knowledge and skillset they are expecting of you?

Is this something that you think
Should be considered and actioned on a teacher to teacher basis, or something that should have school wide standardised policy for structured and formalised action across the teaching staff?

I was working at a restaurant in Melbourne, had matched and chatted with a guy throughout my shift that day. Business was quiet so we closed early, and me and my colleagues were heading to the pub. The guy said he happened to be nearby and I thought, why not - come join us for a drink.

He had said he was arriving by 10, but it got to 10:30 and he hadn’t appeared. I told my friends I was heading outside for a smoke. As I was out, a guy walks past and calls my name. I stop, and I say “yes - sorry, do I know you?”

He replies “yeah it’s me, Jeremy.”

This was the guys name on tinder but the person stood in front of me was a COMPLETELY different person. Not even like a larger version or an aged version. Just a different person - so much so he was a different ethnicity. The guy in the photo was Caucasian and this guy was Asian.

I was a bit shocked at first but was curious to see how he was going to explain this so, I said “oh hi! I’m going out for a cigarette. Do you smoke?” He said yes and we walked out. I began rolling my tobacco and he asked if he could borrow some.

As he did so he produces a smoking pipe from his (brown shiny leather blazer) pocket. Like a proper Sherlock Holmes pipe. I said - “oh well this isn’t pipe tobacco it won’t work”. He said “oh it’s fine,” plunges his hand in and took a huge chunk and proceeded to shove it into the pipe. I said “no surely that’s not going to light - what do you usually use?”.

He said “oh I don’t, I only bought this today.” He starts trying to light it and is coughing and spluttering. I stand there just bewildered at what’s going on, finish my smoke and say “ok I’m going inside to join my friends - are you coming?”

( for clarity - I wasn’t interested in the date I was just curious to see what the hell he was going to do next and I also felt safe and comfortable because I had 4 friends with me).

We join my friends and I excuse myself to the bathroom (I wanted to double check his tinder profile to make sure I wasn’t losing my mind). I did so and confirmed - this deffo ain’t the guy.

When I return to the group, all of my friends are sat there in silence looking incredibly uncomfortable. My friend notices me and says “can I just talk to you quickly” and drags me back to the bathroom.

She then tells me that in my absence, “Jeremy” had proposed to the group everyone shares what their first sexual experience was. A bizarre conversation starter but they complied.

However when it got to him apparently he said “oh first sexual experience; I guess we mean the ones not with a family member”. And then proceeded to announce that he had f!ng3red his cousin.

At that point it stopped being amusing: I went back to my mates and we all left very very quickly.

To this day I think maybe he was a drama student playing some weird character game or something.

We had hit it off on a night out and swapped numbers, met up for a drink.

He arrived already half drunk, or intoxicated in some way. I could tell he couldn’t quite hold his focus and was repeating himself a fair bit.

So after we had two drinks, he seemed pretty drunk I assume because he started early. He started randomly and length explaining and lecturing me on how logos work - for context: I’m a graphic designer and require no explanation on the subject. I listen to him speak anyway and then responded to what he said.

As I was talking his eyes were wondering all over the place and I could tell he was no longer listening. I said to him “seems like I’ve lost you”.

Here responded, saying “no I’m listening to everything you say and I care”.

I said “okay, what did I just say?”

Then he replied saying “I don’t know can we talk about something else?”

Without asking he ordered us a bottle of wine and started pouring it out. As did so he said “I’m getting a friend vibe. Are you getting a friend vibe?”

I said “yeah that’s no problem. Strange you’ve ordered a bottle of wine and then announced that though”

he replied by saying “oh don’t worry, I still fuck my friends.”