u/JeffinetlyMayonnaise

im just starting out with poi and hooping, and I wanted to know the best websites I could buy LED props? I tried buying LED poi off amazon and being really cheap they weren't the best quality. im looking for hoops and poi that are more professional but not incredibly expensive.

I dont know how to resolve this, my boyfriend and I aren't together anymore because im unable to make changes on myself anytime he communicates something I have done that has hurt him and continue to make the same mistakes over and over again.

when we have to talk about these things I listen and I promise that it is something I can work on and change that I didnt intend on doing, but days later it's like those things I agreed I wanted to fix aren't even on my mind anymore.

things will be great with us for another few weeks and then the conversation comes up again, and again I apologise because I never meant to hurt him and I didnt realise that I had, he forgives me and says he knows I didnt mean it but he does want me to work on it - i do too, i dont want to be hurting him and making him have bad days because of things ive done or said.

this cycle has happened quite alot, we talk, I want to change, but then I repeat the same mistakes. the last few times this conversation has come up it's been a bit different I can tell he's not okay so I ask what's wrong and then we try to talk about it, but he doesn't explain what i should be changing because its the same few issues. im left baffled every time, and I try to remember what it is that ive done but I barely can and I have to keep asking him what ive done and what I need to change in order to stop hurting him. after the amount of times we've had to talk about it, I know that it looks like i dont care to change my ways or that I even care if im hurting him but I do, im so scared to hurt him or do anything wrong I just want to be his happiness not the thing that makes him sad. he's the only person i value and to know my inability to recognise my patterns and break them has pushed him away has shattered me, the mistakes ive made have impacted him really strongly and left him in a dark place many times and I hate that im the reason for it.

I want to change so badly, for me and for him, but ive been sitting trying to remember what ive done and work out how im going to work on myself to be better but I have no memory its like the things that im upset that ive done to him I dont even remember doing.

I dont know how to change when I cant even look myself in the eye and see what ive done.

I feel so lost for what im meant to be doing and how i can move forward and step into a better version of myself